She came to Wisconsin after her hospital stay on december 1. FYI my FIL just moved in to assisted living on Nov 5. Anyway, I was able to wrap her wounds from cellulitis and get her stronger. We returned Dec 9 for a doctor appointment with her primary. He put in for home health because five days after her discharge the hospital said she really should be at rehabilitation. It doesn’t matter. We returned the 10th and I take her to two stores a day to walk and she eats right. The home health agency put in for an exception and the day we were returning they were approved however that’s when my FIL had a stroke. We went back down this past Sunday and had home health look at it and agreed I was doing perfectly and it almost healed. We got back today, it’s really confusing because she would never leave her house this long before. I was just telling her about my friend and how both her parents at the exact same time are on a steady decline and they have the means to go somewhere and they are refusing. I asked what she thought. Oh well. I asked does your generation expect us to take care of you, quit our lives and take care of you. I understand she raised me and I love her. But it’s just me and my husband. Many of you know what happened with my brother. I live in another state and I have a lot of health issues myself. I am grateful she is up here actually because I can live my life but I don’t see my husband alone much. I am sure it’s temporary and I am blessed to have her with us. I don’t know if I did the right thing but I tried calling my brother and it actually rang and went to voicemail I just said I wanted to wish you happy holidays and I really hope you are happy and healthy. I love you and merry christmas. It’s just hard driving by their house knowing he isn’t there. I think it’s what triggered me to call. Even this morning doing dishes I looked at the door and just saw him walking in the way he used to. I don’t expect anything back from him. I know he will not call me back. I just want them to be happy. I apologize because I don’t think I really asked a question. I guess it’s more of venting and updating the support I have found here.? I know I try to keep up with you all. I want to wish everyone happy holidays for you and your family and god bless you all. love you 😍
I think you are grieving your brother. Coming to grips with this stage of life in general. It is hard.
I am glad your mother is doing better. You are doing an awesome job. You and your dh have had your share of caregiving to do that’s for sure.
Make special time for your very good husband. Happy holidays to you and all your family.