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My husband has been admitted to a nursing home for dementia and a stroke. The nursing home is a two hour drive to visit him. I am lost, grieving his company and alone.
Sending love and prayers for you and your husband. This is an extremely difficult situation to find yourself in and there are no easy answers and being two hours away only adds to feeling that much more alone. Just wondering if that's the only nursing home that could take him.
Maybe you could find some things to make for him like homemade cards or write him some love letters (treats if he is able to have them) that way maybe you would feel like he's a little closer and the next time you go visit take them to him. It might be therapeutic for you as well as occupy your mind a little. Make it a special moment with a cup of something you both enjoyed whether it was coffee, tea or whatever else the two of you liked.
Echoing what "MJ1029" said when she journaled during her father's illness, I did the same thing. It was quite helpful and now I have it as a keepsake as there's no way I would be able to remember all the special moments now that 16 years have passed.
I hope you will please let us know how you both are doing whenever you can!
goldiegirl, I am so sorry. Nothing I can say or do can make this OK. I heard a thing on NPR the other day about how the Suicide Hot Lines are getting so many calls now from depressed and hopeless folks who really don't want to "end it all" but who are so desperately lonely and at loose ends. I hope you have SOMETHING that comforts you, whether listening to books on tape, reading, gardening, sewing. I hope there is some way you can find relief. I just don't have more to give you. I am so very sorry. For both you and your husband.
I don't know if it'll help, but when my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer, I moved in with my parents to care for them both. Without thinking consciously about it beyond needing to remember details when my brain was foggy, I found myself writing in a spiral notebook every night. After my dad died, I realized I'd been able to offload my fears, worries, and emotions in that notebook, and it enabled me to keep going the next day.
Consider trying journaling to have a way to release that pain. It might make the rest of your life a little easier to handle. Reach out to friends and neighbors and let them know you need some support. People are kind when they know someone needs help.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Sending love and prayers for you and your husband. This is an extremely difficult situation to find yourself in and there are no easy answers and being two hours away only adds to feeling that much more alone. Just wondering if that's the only nursing home that could take him.
Maybe you could find some things to make for him like homemade cards or write him some love letters (treats if he is able to have them) that way maybe you would feel like he's a little closer and the next time you go visit take them to him. It might be therapeutic for you as well as occupy your mind a little. Make it a special moment with a cup of something you both enjoyed whether it was coffee, tea or whatever else the two of you liked.
Echoing what "MJ1029" said when she journaled during her father's illness, I did the same thing. It was quite helpful and now I have it as a keepsake as there's no way I would be able to remember all the special moments now that 16 years have passed.
I hope you will please let us know how you both are doing whenever you can!
Thinking of you and sending you a warm hug.
x Arwen
Home must feel very empty without him. When was he admitted to the NH, just today?
I don't know if it'll help, but when my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer, I moved in with my parents to care for them both. Without thinking consciously about it beyond needing to remember details when my brain was foggy, I found myself writing in a spiral notebook every night. After my dad died, I realized I'd been able to offload my fears, worries, and emotions in that notebook, and it enabled me to keep going the next day.
Consider trying journaling to have a way to release that pain. It might make the rest of your life a little easier to handle. Reach out to friends and neighbors and let them know you need some support. People are kind when they know someone needs help.
I am so sorry for your loss. You need to be gentle with yourself and find ways to feel productive every day.
Being a full time caregiver takes everything a person has, so you have a giant hole that needs filling.
Send cards and letters, make phone calls and find ways to connect without the 2 hour trip.
I pray that each day brings you healing.