She now requires a feeding tube and mostly around the clock care (from both the care provider and relatives) as a result of what happened. She (to my knowledge) no longer urinates in a jar but now does her “business” (BOTH urination and defecation in an adult diaper). I’m actually writing this as my grandmother just defecated and is being cleaned up by my mother (it smells HORRIBLE as you can probably imagine) but the new routine has not become a problem as of yet. I think my family knew that this situation was going to happen (obviously because of her condition) but as long as she is comfortable in a stable home, I don’t think she (at least right now) has to be in an assisted living facility. Could anyone provide resources (websites etc) to possibly help my family understand what my grandmother now has to live with?? My grandfather is obviously very stressed
She came home from the hospital last Wednesday so she’s no longer there. Right now, it’s a combination of my family members and the in home care provider that will handle everything and so far there hasn’t been any issues
Who will be managing her incontinence?
Who would take charge of her feeding tube?
If care becomes too burdensome at home, your grandmother would have to go into a Skilled Nursing Facility as no Assisted Living communities would accept a resident in her condition; it's WAY more than they're willing to deal with.
Best of luck
You've already received some great advice. The medical professionals involved in your grandmother’s care are the best equipped to provide information about her condition and what to expect in the days ahead. In the condition she is currently in, by your description, she is not appropriate for assisted living. There are other options, though, so don’t be discouraged. Your mom and grandfather have a lot to consider and discuss.
Hugs to you, and hopes that your family gets the guidance they need.
Has anyone suggested facility care or hospice?