I’m watching some Teepa Snow videos on dementia. She was discussing how to no longer reality check people with dementia. Stop arguing, and then this quote jumped out to me:
You gotta quit. Stop. Back up and take a deep breath when you start arguing with someone with dementia.
They can’t reason. They lose memory. It’s not their fault.
Its a good reminder.
https://youtu.be/pqmqC-702Yg
https://youtu.be/ZpXeefZ2jAM
You will NEVER win an argument with someone with dementia, as their brain is broken and logic doesn't live there any more.
Life is so much better for all involved if you just meet a person with dementia exactly where they are at.
Sadly we all have to learn that the hard way.
One of my problems was that I didn’t recognize the early signs of dementia. So, I thought my mother was being contrary. The truth was that she wasn’t able to understand.
I need to read this & remind myself daily.