I know this is a strange question but my dad seems to have to use the bedside toilet as soon as I get there. I'm not saying he only does it when I'm there but it is strange because I will get there and 5 or ten minutes later he has to call the nurse for help in getting on the bedside. He sometimes does this multiple times while I'm there and I noticed that he sometimes glares at me while he does. I tried searching for info here but could not find anything.
If I were you, I would leave the room when he's on the commode. Nurse shows up, you go for a walk.
She would go to the bathroom before leaving the house for doctor appointments, hair appointments, etc.
As soon as we arrived, she would look for the nearest bathroom. She was losing control over being able to control when she went to the bathroom.
Mom must have urinated a bazillion times a day! Her bowel movements went back and forth between normal, constipation and diarrhea.
I learned to get her to appointments early because if I didn’t, they would inevitably call her name when she was in the bathroom.
Our physical bodies change as we age and we don’t have the control over our bodily functions like we used to.
Mom ended up using Depends. The Poise pads were no longer as effective for her.
Wishing you and your dad well.