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This is my fourth try with filling this out if it doesn't work then I'm not going to send it. Lol


Quick disclaimer and hopefully some important information some of you may not know.



If your elderly parents have a complete change of personality I mean severe they forget they have dementia they have Alzheimer's it could be hallucinations and whatever that is.



I found out by researching it on the internet but the doctor was doing it anyway but didn't tell us.



Some like that situation with a very quick onset of a personality change loss of memory and everything else is almost always and it should be checked either way whether you know it or not or worried if it's true or not get it checked is



A non-symptomatic UTI. Once they get on the antibiotics you see a major change. I've talked to the police officer in this town it's small he sees it happen here. Talk to some other people they knew about it but I have talked to so so many people that did not know this.



We personality changing and her speech and stuff and did a home kit for a UTI.


What waste of money we get a positive result at home Go to the doctor and she is clean. Those tests are no good.



*IF YOU NOTICE A CHANGE IN YOUR PARENT THAT IS TOTALLY AGAINST THEIR PERSONALITY THE THINGS THEY DO THE ROUTINE THEY HAVE GET THEM TO THE DOCTOR FOR UTI.*



NOW back to my long-winded story.



My mom got bless your soul is 86 years old. I forget things all the time 86-year-olds forget to.


Sibling issues when you have an elderly parent.



8 years older than me is my brother and he is so not with reality.



Since jointly on all of her financial accounts and it took all the money it's legal!



But no way is it "logical or makes any sense which makes it not true with all the information and documents we found,"



Well more mad at me cuz I'm now part of attorney and the letter he got to incapacitate her and she's not that way anymore she's 95.8% better I will never instate I'm now the one that they're going to have to go to to try to play his game.



Okay okay TMI I know.



Can anyone think or has tried to do this because the POA was totally not with reality of what the responsibilities were. And taking money whether it was legal or not and putting in your name before they die is against the law.



I'm hard time getting answers without pay for an attorney and I'm good investigating.



I want to go to court for mediation I'd rather a judge but it's not to get them in trouble legally. What he did is legal but her judge sees it and listens to it and he can say... What he did was legal but if it's a good judge he's going to open his mouth and tell my brother though it was legal what he did to his mother was unconscionable unnecessary and kept her more ill than she would have been if we had just kept it going the way everything changed.



Again TMI and I talk to text sorry it's long but if you can get an idea of this message please get back to me and if you have questions to help me find the right question let me know that too.



It's sibling story to get into. I told him other she's got three options. Ask for the money back, tell him that he's going to be paying her bills out of all that money and leave her social security and post office retirement alone. She can't pay her bills and the money she's getting in and nobody's giving you any more money. The last and final straw would be that her new will he has a percentage of what you gets will minus that enormous amount of money.



But saying so elegantly ...



🎶🎶Help me 🎶🎶



Just I put in about the UTI if you didn't know it wonderful if you did excellent and if you did spread the word to everybody you know and tell them they have to do the same thing.



That's only reason I'm putting in this question if you can figure out where it is in this paragraph you're better than I am.



When You're talking with a friend or someone and you're just talking him a conversation and they give you a little different view of the situation and your off

"The goodness of his heart" and "psychotically" do not belong together. You do realize that, right?
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I am afraid that you are correct in believing that you must have an attorney.

The fact that a bank allowed this sibling to be put onto the account, if he was put on as a CO-OWNER of the account, means that the account belongs to him upon the death of the other co-owner.
Banks are VERY CAREFUL about adding co owners to the account; both parties, the new owner and the current owner must be there and a bank officer does this work, not a teller at the window.

As you can imagine we cannot see the paperwork nor speak to bank officers nor have any other clue as to what happened here.
Do see an attorney and take all the information you can with you to your appointment.
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No, a PoA cannot "take" the principle's money. They are supposed to protect it, and manage it in their best interests, pay their bills with it, (whatever the PoA document allows them), etc. If your brother moved their money to an account with only his name on it... yikes. Is this what happened? Your post is very hard to understand... sorry.

If your parents (both of them have simultaneous UTIs?) are now competent, this is their battle to fight. If she took their money literally, then this is a crime and you should not tolerate it. No one should tolerate it. This is going to cause your parents all sorts of problems now and into the future. If I'm understanding your post correctly.

Those of us who have been providing care to our elders for a while now are well acquainted with UTIs and what they do to our LOs, but thanks for the reminder.
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