I'm just going to explain my situation maybe will help
My brother is POA, so I have no power. He will not admit that moms health and mind are failing. He has some major health issues of his own, along with 2 jobs and some of his own travel.
I was trying to pick up the slack, but I have no power to do anything. So I'm just waiting till he is not around and mom has a major issue and I can take her to ER, and I can say unsafe discharge. And if my brother brings her home then I'm going to wash my hands of them all.
It's hard , so hard leaving mom alone, and waiting for a catastrophe.
I'm sorry you are going through this.
What I tell myself every day is , I didn't cause this. This is not my fault. She has a house to pay for AL, this is there problem I didn't make it. There is a way out but everyone refuses to take it.
I just do the best I can do and spend time with mom but try to leave there problem with them.
My brother is POA, so I have no power. He will not admit that moms health and mind are failing. He has some major health issues of his own, along with 2 jobs and some of his own travel.
I was trying to pick up the slack, but I have no power to do anything.
So I'm just waiting till he is not around and mom has a major issue and I can take her to ER, and I can say unsafe discharge. And if my brother brings her home then I'm going to wash my hands of them all.
It's hard , so hard leaving mom alone, and waiting for a catastrophe.
I'm sorry you are going through this.
What I tell myself every day is , I didn't cause this. This is not my fault. She has a house to pay for AL, this is there problem I didn't make it. There is a way out but everyone refuses to take it.
I just do the best I can do and spend time with mom but try to leave there problem with them.
Best of luck to you
At home or was it in rehab?
Your view (& possibly other family members) is Assisted Living is required.
Maybe you see an unsafe living situation, many risks, falls or lack of hygiene?
Yet your parent doesn't agree.
Maybe says Oh I'll manage, yet cannot plan or problem solve? Pleasant but vague.
Or maybe hostile, refuses all help & tells you to butt out? A new (or long standing) stubborn streak.
Has anything been diagnosed that would effect thinking/cognition?