I want to let everyone know how much i appreciate the help! half of the time, i feel like im losing my mind and i know you guys feel that way too sometimes. even if you have never given me advice, i appreciate you helping others. im so glad i came across this website, because nobody i know has similar circumstances, because im only 25 and im helping my husbands grandma who is 80, and our parents are only around 50. we are still figuring ourselves out, so its really rough for us to do this, but we really love her and want to make sure the rest if her life is happy. We truly love helping others. She has no other family members willing to help, her own adult children, so all she has is us. but to everyone who is caretaking: you are a wonderful human being for taking the responsibilty, a lot of people just dont bother taking care of their elderly. Never let anyone tell you otherwise. And you are greatly appreciated from others whom you have given advice to. Thank you!