i have been turned in to adult protective for abuse of my mother. adult protective has taken statements from my mother and others and i believe they think i am abusive. i am just crused. i gave up career and life to care for her. do i need attorney, and should i file charges for false statements made about me.
Start there. You may need to seek guardianship.
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Gather all mums medical records! Make copies! Get character records!
Request a police investigation! Most older people with mental problems or medication abuse or serious side effects or just plain madness make up stories to get the family to visit them ! Also your mums medical illness makes her distort things for instance if she tried to hurt herself and you stopped her she may due to meds & dimentia... Or just her bipolar personality get confused! Anyway you hotta act fast and get evidence and get a close friend to help you! Here what usually happens almost everyone with dimentia will say you are bashing them & they , your mum gets confused!!
Tell the doctors & go to the hospitals & get all medical reports .... Get a lawyer regardless cause this way no ine can manipulate your words!!!
And stand your ground!!!
Shame on the family who listen to your confused ill mum!!
The police sounds like they can & are pursuing you!!!
Wrongfuly
But will not stop!!
You mum wants attention!!
She is manipulative & knows what to do to create chaos gor you!
Do not worry!
Act fast seek legal aid now!!!
The police get it wrong most of thr time!
Our service dogs, so plenty of nights. Me mom and two great Danes kept us warm in the Honda threw winter.I found a motel run down which is one room but a shower and a fridge,a stove all luxories as is not walking up with a parking break in your shoulder and a160 pound great Dane on top of you.now we are indoors but the cars gone.mom has not much memory except she thinks I'm my dad and goes threw rages as she thinks I've been cheating on her.I can't do what everybody says"get rid of the dogs"moms luv for the dogs so great its all we have left and my dad was an ent specialist plastic surgeon who left luxories wells Fargo hauled the contents of her home away also illegally.
So now she's talking in her sleep normal as if somebody is talking to her.when awake she can't make sense as words don't connect.also her appitite is poor.not that we have much food. Its as if a bad dream instanl y came true.but I never dreampt ever life would come to this.oh got to go moms awake I've got to help her she's also almost blind. I have found that even though I don't walk into a beautiful home full of antiques baby grand stienways Persian rugs art work ect.I know the best thinng I'm grateful for is the Hart still beets.its my wish all you are blessed too.I'm figuring all this new insideous disease out alone as siblings called APS nine times to finding it false report.if I found a nursing home had Abused my mom I'd have a place to live alright,behind bars.people who abuse the elderly I won't comment on the punishment they need.I'd I guess I will.e execute them and it will stop happening.you see why dogs are better than most humans ?
Fabrication lies by APS when asking for help to get my mom to the hospital which caused a corrupt guardian in Florida to take control of my mothers life and personal property all gone and heartbroken forever..never allowing my mother to be with her yorkie and cat who were her world along with her grandson, childhood friend, family. My mom was put in dumpy nursing homes and locked up like a prisoner for the last year of her life...abused broken bones over drugged causing hypothermia and 3 feeding tubes causing severe infections and she did not even need it...the 3rd time killed her and begged it be stopped.The Harvard hospital, Jewish for the aging and other top hospitals even stated that was cruel and unethical....so I caution you it can be a living nightmare since so many of us loving our parents are destroyed by guardianship abuse and more from strangers and corrupt judges who break apart and destroy families forever...I even stated keep her money just give me my mother back...please contact me if you like. Their are so many of us hurt and traumatized forever and would be here for support and help anyone who needs it ...
It's too much to tell in one comment but contact me if you really need the support for a group of us want to save those elder parents who are innocent and you a loving son or daughter needing advice and support to keep your elder parents safe and in the arms of their loved ones...
Heartbroken for my mom
Jill
What sort of a quack of a doctor was he? Cost that much? That is crazzy? And the doctor did not ask for any input from you and/or your sister? My mother's neurologist has known her for several years while she's been having these seiziers which climaxed with one big stroke. He had no problem at all seeing her incopentency with the standard verbal and written tests. The nursing home doctor who had only known my mother a few weeks could clearly see how incompetent my mother had become.
The more I read of your story the more angry I feel for you and your sister!
I've read so many mean, abusive mom stories on this site, that I could almost say something very blunt and harsh but I will refrain.
We did have mom evaluated, cost us $1,200 and he said she was okay, this is crazy. She got all dressed up, tried to show
that she was in control and really buffaloed him. However, some of things she has tried recently should have them worried. Trying to walk down the hall with her walker when she is supposed to have a worker helping with the belt around her, walking around her room without her walker, and asking the workers to walk her without the walker down the hall just to see if she can do it and forgetting meals and not realizing when it is time to take her medications.
Thanks for listening and helping to get me straightened out. I should have gone for this guardianship thing long when I was in Minnesota, before this thing mushroomed on me.
It took me several phone calls to document that he was on a waiting list and as soon as something opened up, I was moving my father to assisted living.
Your story is an example of why our aging parents need to give us adult children durable and medical power of atty before they get in really bad shape as well as having them evaluated for being competent or incompentent for handeling their own business in a business like manner which obvriously your mother has not been in some time. When you have such a statement by one and perferably two doctors that is noterized then, she could not have gone over your head and created all of this financial mess. I think both you and your sister need the atty for from what I understand you to say that both of you are being sued. There is really no way that you can stay on the outside of all of this. You mother does not need to have control of her money and property once again. It sounds like ya'll might need to pursue guardianship being assigned to her by the court.
How can she afford an atty to sue ya'll if she does not have control of her money anymore?
Sounds to me like your mother used you both coming and going as well as now not seeing you as useful anymore and thus wants to suck even more of life out of you just like someone with a personaiity disorder does in order to make themselves feel like they are the victim when in fact they have victimized others.
Wow! I recognize almost EVERY ONE OF THOSE MEDICATIONS!!! Several of them really should only be given to a person my a psychiatrist. I've been on seroquel and know what it does! I'm glad to be off of it.
Frankly, if this destroys what's left of your family, then the system itself was already fallen apart long before this.
Thus, I see two actions to take. First, decide to be proactive about this and get yourself a lawyer soon! Second, find yourself a therapist to help you with this burn out, through this legal situation, and to see if you may need some medication yourself for your own well being.
Right now, you can't change mom nor can you change your daughters, nor can you change the situation of being accused, but you can take charge of you by being proactive in doing the two things I suggest above.