I found this site a few months ago and have found a lot of support in reading about other experiences and getting responses from others. I wanted to let everyone know that last week my father lost his battle with pneumonia. If anyone would like to hear about any details, just ask. It's almost time to sleep here now, and I cannot describe how it aches me to not have him coming out of his room to give a little wave and say "goodnight."
Not something we would redily admit to just anyone, but they are obviously more common than any of us thought before.
Thank you all for sharing and reafirming each other.
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My dad passed when he was only 54. He had heart disease and was no longer supposed to smoke. Occasionally he would go down to the cellar and light up. I was in the cellar one day getting laundry, and smelled cigarette smoke. At first it freaked me out! Then I realized no one was there, and decided it was Dad sneaking a smoke! It was nice to know he was still around looking out for us.
Luvmom
I guess we have to live day by day and that's all!
Luvmom
Sorry
Thanks for sharing.
Luvmom
Another incredible thing of this kind happened to me: a very loved kitten who died exactly 10 years later, the same day, the same hour, of a person I had loved a lot.
Coincidences? Strange!
Yes, we have blackcap chickadees here too. They are greatly loved and can be very friendly. They really like black oil sunflower seeds. Maybe next May he will bless you with another visit & stay for some sunflower seeds.
It's good you can recognize these things as special gifts for you and your mother. They are.
My father had black hair.
It is incredible, because such a thing has not happened, before or after. No more blackcaps, no little birds of any kind, came to knock on our window. Just those 3 days. The most poetic guess is that my father wanted to show my mother that he is still here... Was he calling her? I will never know, but it's very strange. They had 40 years of marriage (quite controversial, at times) but they loved each other a lot.
I feel the presence of my father, anyway. I talk to him, sometimes I get angry at him. After 15 years I am sure there is not a single day when I have not thought of him, even if only for 5 minutes.
A big hug to you. Please don't think I am crazy, my life is full of these extraordinary coincidences...
We keep them alive with our memory.
So we put out my dad's favorite potato chips, cookies, and coffee!
I'm going to select the "do not notify" checkbox this time around, but will check back in on everyone after a while. One day at a time - and let the days build up.
I wrote my Dad's eulogy & made a photo book for his funeral that went all the way back to his childhood. It was a tremendous help to me & mom still goes through the photo book often. It gives her comfort too.
GOD give you peace.
Hugs
Luvmom
I can't imagine but know our time is coming ....
Please stay with us?
Your dad was a lucky fella to have you.
GOD give you comfort in your mourning and peace in your pain.
Your father has gone on to be with his father and our FATHER.
They watch over us now.
Take care.
In my family we don't mourn someone's passing. We celebrate their life. Still, I can't hold back the tears back when I remember Dad slowly going to sleep in my arms as I bathed him 13 years ago. The last thing he said was "Thank you."
I'm letting them flow right now. They cleanse me and help me cope with the pain of not having him around. Yet his memory is that extra source of strength when I feel weak. As Celine Dion said, "I'm everything I am because [he] loved me," and all I can do is share that love with my sons, the grandkids, ... and you.
Stay strong my friend.
-- ED
god bless you guys for heart aching for ur pa .
sorry for ur loss . xoxoxo