Took my folks to a baby shower yesterday... they are expecting their first great grandchild. They were totally wiped out and stayed in bed most of the day today. My dad told me they it was a boost to him emotionally to see his whole family and talk to friends.
We are a bit isolated living in the middle of nowhere so we don't get many visitors. My folks are not always up to going out, but we do go a few times a week. It's always a production with wheel chair, walker, electric shopping carts, parking and lifting (mom has mobility issues)... wow I get so worn out. Dad does drive but recently told me he does not feel safe driving alone... truth be told he is often too weak to.
I have to constantly remind myself to be patient, especially when I'm exhausted from secular work. It's worth it to see them engaged in life and finding some happiness. I worry about them when I'm not home, but we stay in touch by phone. I am also free to run home from work if I need to.
I have read so many experiences on this site, I just would like to hear something positive and encouraging. The stress of being constantly 'on call' wears on me but I take on this role willingly.
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You said, "I take on this role WILLINGLY."
THAT is what counts and what makes it quality. That you are WILLING.
Your heart is in it.
You are GIVING for the sake of GIVING and because of LOVE.
I suspect that what you give them with your time is probably way beyond patient understanding (although inside you have all manner of emotions, outwardly all they see is patience and love...that's what I'm *getting* when I tune into you about this). I think that you are providing them much joy and your time and efforts are even more of a gift than you can imagine. You are doing worlds of good for those two people and they are luckier than most in that they can still enjoy such activities and have someone who is WILLING to make them possible to enjoy them safely.