We both have disabilities, and that is what started all of this. We & our dog together. I don't have too many problems now, but it's getting worse. I fell a couple of years ago on the ice, hurt my back, went to the hospital, then a nursing home for about a month. Nothing was the same after that. I can't figure out things very well anymore, like which way the lock and key go together in the back door. I am able to go shopping to Wal-Mart, but sometimes get the wrong thing or too much/less. I didn't accept this in the beginning. I was very upset, I saw exactly how AZ was because mil had it, and I had paid her some visits. I prayed & prayed, Lord please don't let me have AZ. I don't want to forget, I don't want to be like mil. Well so far I have been dx'ed with forgetfulness. I am grateful for this and pray it doesn't get any worse. I am riding on a cloud, I know, but I think I will be able to accept it now. I have some memory problems, but I usually remember after awhile. I am very clumsy. I spend a lot of time on the computer, and can still balance the checkbook. We have help for the wash & cleaning. I am 75, and my husband is 80, and we get along quite well. He doesn't usually get upset with me because I can't help what happens.
I also have Scleroderma, Copd, rds, Ra, rsd, and many other ailments.
I can't type anymore now because my hands and arms wear out.
Did the hospital do any scans after your fall to see if there was any damage? It would be nice to know if it was just a local injury. With the autoimmune diseases and your husband's disability, I thought Chicago's idea of assisted living could be something you would like. It would make life easier if you could find a place that fit your budget.
Welcome to Agingcare. Sorry that the nicer people didn't reach you before the strange ones wrote.
It is good to enjoy what you have right now, and it is also good to plan ahead while you and your husband are able to discuss and decide things together. I would think that moving to an assisted living facility would allow you to be together but would relieve you of grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, and other mundane chores. There would be trained people available to help you any time of the day or night. You might not need this kind of environment right this minute, but I think you would be smart to plan ahead a little, so you are ready if the need arises.
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Maybe she was being nice?
You really need to stop posting such crappy shit Pam. Look, I cherish your wisdom but there are times when you are so out of left field. This was one.
at age 75 those ailments are not at all hard to believe . i suffer from all of those AND priapism . knock on wood i guess is what im sayin here .
dont mind my bs . im trying to unwind enough to fall asleep by doing a little bit of delusional / grandiose ranting .