So tired of not having a life of my own.

If your mom has early onset, do you have children at home? This is only going to get harder for you and for your mom. Have you looked at facilities in your area? Those that take Medicaid often have quite long waiting lists and some, or many require two years of self pay before Medicaid will kick in. If she has an emergency that requires a trip to the ER you can tell the staff that you are not able to care for her any longer and they WILL find a place for her to live.

..."lay the same track".....I'm getting worse everyday ....

Forgot to suggest searching this site for "dementia, activities" to find some that she can do alone.

Look at all the control words you've used to describe her dominance:

"I can no longer see my friend across the street or sit outside...", "I have to take her for a ride every day", "I'm forced to watch shows on TV" ...

It's easy to fall into this trap to be cooperative and helpful, but after awhile you have to stand your ground and say "no".

Leave the room when she watches tv, tell her you'll take her for a ride after you finish housework (or some other task), and begin refusing to allow her to dictate your schedule and activities.

She may be confused, she may be annoyed, she may be angry. If she's hurt and you can communicate frankly with her, tell her that you'll making some new arrangements so that both of you can have free time...something to that effect. You can start by doing this, engaging in separate activities, then do something together so she recognizes that you still love her and will care for her, but that you both need time away from each other.

Good luck; it's often hard to be this firm with someone so close to you, but it's necessary for the mental health of you both.

There's another possibility and that in some way she recognizes that she's losing her faculties and is fearful and doesn't want to be alone.

Babalou is right on the money, however you may want to lay the same teach I to a nursing home or assited living for her. Even with in home help and some day care your life is going to be totally consumed by caregiving.

There's a book called Boundaries that you should get from the library, or from Amazon. Your mother, with Dementia (sad, not her fault or your fault), is not in charge. You are. "We're taking a ride this morning", and you take her to the senior center. She'll adjust. She'll probably love it. You don't ask her, you tell her.

Get her qualified for Medicaid. Make sure you have a caregiver contract set up so that she's paying you rent, and for your caregiving. Arrange for CNAs to come and sit with her while you do errands, go to the library, have "me" time.

Learn to set boundaries. You cannot be "on" all the time or you'll die before she does.