The nursing home for my mother is just waiting on her assessment.

When I was waiting on my cousin's admission into AL, the AL told me that they were waiting on some paperwork from the state. That was the first I had heard about it and I was livid. I cried on the phone. I called the state office and inquired about it. I was told the AL was mistaken. I then called the AL and told them what the state rep has said. They apologized, called me right back and said they did have what they needed! I then went over with my loved one for admission the next morning. Sometimes, you have to really get behind people. There are lots of cases where people, forget, go on vacation, are misinformed, etc.

I would call the people who are supposed to prepare that paperwork and remind them that time is of the essence. They don't understand what it's like trying to gingerly get a loved one with dementia into a facility. It's very high stress and timing is everything.