I sometimes think about when I was on a beach with a smoke and coconut. While you are trapped in reality that is caregiving, what tranquil place does your mind wander to?
I'm with you Gershun. I think my happy place always revolved around being with my family, especially my dad. I can't imagine that I am on this earth without him anymore. I try really hard to keep my head above water since his passing but some days I can't do it.
My Happy Place used to be anywhere I was with my Mom. I truly believe she was my soul mate. Now..............I haven't found a happy place to replace her yet. Maybe, sometimes when I have dreams about her and we are doing the usual things we used to do like shopping or going for Lunch or even just sitting and not talking. She was the only person in my entire life I felt comfortable doing that with.
Walking the beach in the Outer Banks of North Carolina looking for sea shells. I have been to many beaches all over the world but the shells were amazing on the outer banks. Very calming....
A cabin, or even a nice camper, on the shores of Lake Superior, no neighbors nearby, just someone who will check on me now and then to make sure I haven't croaked and give me a bit of human company occasionally. Somewhere I can listen to the waves and the birds, enjoy the fresh air, come and go as I please and wifi/cell signal/satellite so I can still work and earn a living.
I want beach access, wild berry bushes within a reasonable walking distance, and a 4-wheel drive vehicle for snowy winters. They make lovely big campers now that even have electric fireplaces, gourmet kitchens, full baths with real toilets (not those stupid plastic ones) and premium audio/tv systems throughout.
Requirements: - No adult children or grandkids allowed - I will visit them at their home so I can leave when ready. This business of them coming here and never leaving is getting old *very* fast. Came to a head today. (Which is why I need the happy place.) - Grocery store within a reasonable distance (more than willing to drive 20-30 miles if necessary). - Year-round maintenance on the road so I can get out/in. -Someone I can hire to plow my drive and such for me.
(sigh)....back to reality. Gkids fussing at each other (one sick and the other just whiny), DD fussing at the kids for fussing at each other and in a foul mood herself because she's just grudgingly decided she needs to get a job (oh the horrors), and me penned up in my room trying to work and stay out of the melee. Even the dog and cat are hiding in the room with me, preferring to stay out of it too.
I think of how peaceful it is in Wyoming where we would go for a vacation and I would sit and watch the deer wander down the side of the mountain every evening.
CWillie, Oh yes. I didn't know who they were until the 1990's! But, I made up for it seeing Robert and Jimmy as much as I could. Then, later just Robert. Still.....my idol.
Even though I didn't really enjoy it at the time (family wedding = forced family fun... not) I find myself fantasizing about the Jamaican vacation I took last year. Long days on a hot beach, unlimited booze and food I didn't have to prepare for myself. Oh, and not having to wash, feed and medicate mom several times a day.
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A cabin, or even a nice camper, on the shores of Lake Superior, no neighbors nearby, just someone who will check on me now and then to make sure I haven't croaked and give me a bit of human company occasionally. Somewhere I can listen to the waves and the birds, enjoy the fresh air, come and go as I please and wifi/cell signal/satellite so I can still work and earn a living.
I want beach access, wild berry bushes within a reasonable walking distance, and a 4-wheel drive vehicle for snowy winters. They make lovely big campers now that even have electric fireplaces, gourmet kitchens, full baths with real toilets (not those stupid plastic ones) and premium audio/tv systems throughout.
Requirements:
- No adult children or grandkids allowed - I will visit them at their home so I can leave when ready. This business of them coming here and never leaving is getting old *very* fast. Came to a head today. (Which is why I need the happy place.)
- Grocery store within a reasonable distance (more than willing to drive 20-30 miles if necessary).
- Year-round maintenance on the road so I can get out/in.
-Someone I can hire to plow my drive and such for me.
(sigh)....back to reality. Gkids fussing at each other (one sick and the other just whiny), DD fussing at the kids for fussing at each other and in a foul mood herself because she's just grudgingly decided she needs to get a job (oh the horrors), and me penned up in my room trying to work and stay out of the melee. Even the dog and cat are hiding in the room with me, preferring to stay out of it too.