911 and not expected to survive.

Awe, you are a sweet daughter, Yes, love is eternal!
Peace n hugs,
Bella

Thank you all so very much. It means more than you know. Love is eternal

Didgens......I am sending peace and comfort thoughts your way. So sorry for your loss.

Didgens he is with your mom now and suffers no more. My heart aches for you today. I hope you can take comfort to know that he is in a better place now. I am so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs your way. I hope you get some rest because it's been an awful few days for you and you must be exhausted. Please take care of yourself. Sending prayers and wishing you comfort in this difficult time. 

Didgens, our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

((((Didgens))))

Didgens I am so sorry for your loss. You did so much for your dad and he appreciates and knows it. He is very proud of you.

Didgens,
I am sorry...
You really did a great job and were an excellent advocate for your Dad.
(((Big Hug)))

Didgens, I'm so sorry - as Sunny said above, even though you were expecting it, this sort of loss is never, ever easy. You did everything you could, and as much as you could, while your dad was living - and he knows it. Hang in there, and come back to chat here if you need support. Many of us have already been where you are now.

Didgens, Please accept my condolences of the loss of your father. Even though, you were expecting it, I know it must be very painful. You were a great daughter and I hope you can find comfort in how he's now with his loving wife. Sending positive thoughts to you and your family.

Didgens - big ((((((((((hugs))))))) and deepest sympathies on the loss of your dad. You can take comfort in that you cared for him, and that he is with your mum now. Look after you at this difficult time. My prayers are with you.

Last night my dear Daddy left this world. I know he dancing with my mom now... so very sad for the loss but he has been missing her terribly.. rest in peace Papa

the nursing home my dad was in was like this towards my dad - they lost their Veterans Contract because of what happened to my dad. He rallied but never got really better.. we moved him out and he passed in a more caring facility....
So very sorry this happened to your dad ((((HUG)))

Didgens, praying for your dad's comfort and peace. Thinking of you and wishing you strength and calm too.

(((((((hugs)))))) and blessings to you and your dad.

Didgens, may God bless your Dad and all of his caregivers. Sending good wishes

Yes I spent 7 hours with him yesterday ,, he did open his eye and move his arms ,, I held his hand I believe he shed a tear,, I told him a million times how much I loved him, but that it was time to go find mama. That I know hes been missing her terribly and it was time for me to give him to her. I offered gentle kisses and held his hand.. Leaving to go over to the hospital now but my cousin said this morning he wasn't responsive much ,, so I will see ,, he may have moved into the "active dying phase" ( some of you know what this term means) at which point after watching my husband go through it, there is not much reaction to any presence. I hope that is the case,,, and my telling him its ok to go,, that I will see him later and to save me a place has helped. All the family members have visited and said their good byes ,, so there is nothing holding him back except biology at this point. Thank you all for your thoughts and wishes..

Still thinking of you and your dad didgens...
Big gentle hug for you both ❤️️

Did gets, Gosh I so sorry that that your Dad and you, are going through such a rough time. I'm sending you my thoughts and prayers, that God do the right thing, and that your Dad doesn't suffer.

I'm so sorry you have been through so much loss of late, I too lost 3 parents in only 14 months, and then took over the care of my FIL after that, so I can relate a bit, to what you've been going through.

I also agree with those suggesting that you tell him it's OK to go. It sounds like he has been an Amazing Father, and you are lucky to have had him!

It's so hard losing our Loved Ones, and I guess there is some sort of life lesson, though I am hard pressed to find it, when our loss is stacked one right after the other, but it often seems to go that way, doesn't it? You Remember to Take Care of YOU! God Bless!

Freqflyer is right, Didgens. It's important to let your Dad know that it's ok to go - tell him you love him and will miss him very much - but that you'll be ok and it's ok for him to go. You'd be amazed how many stories we hear of the loved one waiting and holding on until someone tells them it's ok to let go.

I did this for both of my parents and my grandmother. My grandmother passed 2 minutes after my mother got there to tell her it was ok to go - she was in end stage breathing for nearly an hour before that. She was just waiting for one of her daughters to tell her it was ok. We had to have the conversation with dad while he was in a brief lucid moment, as he was very sick with sepsis and kidney failure. We told him the plan was to move him to another hospital where he could become more nutritionally stable and receive dialysis every single day - but that it meant a very hard fight for him. We asked him if he wanted to stay and fight, or if he just wanted to let go -
and told him we'd be ok with either decision. He said he didn't know...then said he wanted to stay...but passed away a few hours later. With Mom, I didn't get much chance, because she collapsed suddenly at the NH and was on life support by the time I saw her when they brought her out of her room and took her to the hospital. I did tell her it was ok to go, but I honestly think by that time, she was already gone. That's been a hard one for me to accept, because I always thought I'd be there for her when she passed - but that decision was taken out of my hands.

Just be there with him. Talk to him, tell him you love him and that if he feels he needs to go, it's ok. It's the hardest thing you'll ever do, but also very important.

Didgens, one thing I learned from the forum is when a parent is on their final days, tell them it is ok to go. I did that with my Dad, told him not to worry about me because he taught me so much, especially how to identify every tool in the toolbox and how to use them. And a few hours later he passed, but he waited until I was out of the room.

Then I knew he was back with my Mom, his love of his life. I remember the caregiver said that my Dad kept calling out my Mom's name and reaching up for her. So it was time. My Dad also had a fascinating 95 years, so no regrets.

didgens -wondering how your dad is and how you are this morning.

Didgens, I am so sorry to read about your dad. Going through hospice with mom now myself. Though mom looks as if she will be around yet for awhile. Thinking of you and your dad.

Didgens, some hospitals have a palliative care floor. Does this one? Or as you have already guessed, nothing will happen over the 3 day weekend. Sending good vibes your way. You might also call or ask if pastoral care department can make a visit. They can often guide you through this oh so difficult time.

Hugs and prayers Didgens. I am so sorry you and your Dad are going through this.

Didgens, so sorry.............:(

Hi Didgens, I'm so sorry to hear how things are going for you this evening. Will be thinking of you and your dad.

THANK YOU !

I remember one night being in the hospital with my mom who was not expected to survive sepsis. The only thing that kept me sane were posts from folks in different time zones, giving me good questions to ask the docs, encouragement and reminders that I needed to drink water.

We'll stick with you!

Thank you all so much,,, it means the world