Last week I had my last treatment for breast cancer. For a month, I had been truly unable to visit mom in her memory facility (unité prothétique).
Now I can barely function in my own home and depend heavily on my retired husband because on top of all I have Sjogrën syndrome.
And I still feel guilty not to have visited mom. I plan to see her tomorrow and on Christmas Day, even if I'll miss all parties and even Christmas Mass.
Everybody tells me to focus on me as she is well cared of and relatively happy, but they can't know how we, caregivers, feel so damn responsible for the little happy moments we can give to those we used to comfort in their dementia!
You can!
Have the best of time and the peace of heart in this demanding Season!
I'm so used to focus on mom, it is difficult to shift on me. Thanks for the help!
Take care! It's very cold outside;-)
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Thank you also to confirm that I am right to skip the family party, because it is a hard decision. Because with the young children it is a microbes bath! I will so miss children, nephews, nieces, and all the in-laws...
Thank you for your kindness!Have a lovely time with your loved ones!
Thank you also to confirm that I am right to skip the family party, because it is a hard decision. Because with the young children it is a microbes bath! I will so miss children, nephews, nieces, and all the in-laws... Thank you!
Have a lovely time with your loved ones!
Recovery from that cancer was exhausting. I needed vitamin B12 shots once a week which were a big help.
And I had to be so careful not be around a lot of people as my immune system wasn't the best. And all the excuses I had to give to my parents for not helping them for this or that. Ah, the guilt big time. I think caregivers are expected to do everything even if it means making ourselves sicker :P