I love coming on here knowing I am not the only one...... Last week my father passed away after my husband and I helped him for 28 years, I cared for him for 9 years. I am grateful that he was peaceful for the last few months and passed on gently.... However, for about the last decade, I would try to be "professional" or "open" or whatever we may label it. I asked for input, comment, opinion from siblings....and got little to no feedback. And then when I get the logistics of the funeral put together, the snarky remarks start coming! ARGH! What? So now I have survived piles of relatives, too much food...and I am left feeling angry instead of peaceful myself. I stumbled onto a quotation from Albert Einstein, no less, that for the last several days had kept me from going bat s.... crazy. I want all of you in the same boat to grab a sticky note and copy this down....I PROMISE this will come in handy later..... Weak People Retaliate, Strong People Forgive, Intelligent People Ignore. I am not feeling strong enough yet, but do feel the potential to be smart!! Hang in there all you folks! Have a great week!
May God help you through this part of the journey.
Thank you for the quote, I will keep it in my heart.
"Weak People Retaliate, Strong People Forgive, Intelligent People Ignore". My current situation with my ailing parents and dysfunctional sister is horrible and this site and posts like yours are my life raft.
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MM you have done the very best and never let down to care for another human being, your father. Thank you for your story. You give me courage. I hope I can have that much love.
Don't forget who was at your father's side when he needed help. I sometimes think these nonparticipating siblings cause a ruckus to either overcompensate for their lack of involvement or to shift the post-death focus away from them, since they weren't part of the caregiving team.
Be at peace, my friend.