Her recent hearing evaluation showed moderate to severe hearing loss in both ears. The doctor told her that it is the type of hearing loss that hearing aids will help. My mother refuses to discuss hearing aids, won't even attend a free session at the doctor's office to see and discuss the various options. I told her that I would not be screaming into the phone any longer and that I will repeat what I say every time she asks, but that I will not be raising my voice to a shouting level any longer. I just hung up the phone with her a few minutes ago because she said "if you're not going to talk louder then just hang up". This is the tip of the iceberg and I am so frustrated that I have hit burnout on this issue. Let her talk to my brother, the golden boy.
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I had to chuckle because I refer to my brother the golden boy too. I get to do all the crap work, while he just regales them with everything he's doing. Argg. My mother also won't wear hearing aids - she has some dementia. It's excellent that you're setting boundaries - we must keep our sanity. I have had to give up and so much that's normal. Refusal to do sensible things is part of the dementia thing. Goodness. Best luck to you.
My MIL has them but says she likes it quiet. But she also has dementia and sometimes I am not sure if she can hear me or it is her disease.
My husband needs hearing aides.
When I go to visit MIL and help her do things, I just go get her hearing aides and hand them to her. I won't say a word until she puts at least one in.
My mom wore hearing aids but was bothered by feedback when using the telephone so she would take it out to talk (yes, the phone was supposedly HA compatible). Anyway, mom's phone didn't need to have a button pushed to increase the volume, it was just always loud (really, really loud!) This doesn't help with one on one conversations but it is a good, simple start.
Hearing aids aren't always the answer. Most people think if you put on hearing aids you will hear--just like wear glasses and you can see. While hearing aids have made leaps and bounds of improvements, you have to remember all they are doing is amplifying what hearing a person has left. So if a person has not hearing in a certain frequency, no hearing aid is going to help that.
As for the phone, there are captioned phone available that work very well. The one caveat is that they may require an internet connection but that is a small price to pay for being able to talk with your loved one. Do some research as some are better than others. It was such a relief for me to use one and be able to make my own phone calls--I no longer need it because of my cochlear implants.
Finally, make sure if your loved one gets hearing aids, be sure to go to an audiologist for them. Don't use just a hearing aid dispenser, use an audiologist and I have found that those associated with a university are usually the best. An audiologist is worth their weight in gold.
I live with hearing loss every day as do my 30 year old children. It is not easy. I would be more than glad to correspond and answer questions if you have any.
Another option, if the person can see well enough, is to write things out, especially on one of those "grayboards" with the plastic film--it saves a lot of aggravation.
There could be more to it then just stubbornness.
didn't work. He opened up the battery case and found...no battery. He went out to the nurses desk and told them that they needed to replace the batteries.