He had a stroke about a month ago which left his right arm and leg paralyzed, he has a shoulder that never healed properly after being broken in a fall, and he is in a memory care unit with mild dementia. He has been in the nursing home for a year. My mom was there too and passed away in August. I have lunch with him most every day and he tells me every time that he is going home. I try to stall him and say that the doctor doesn't think it's safe for you to go home and try to reason with him. He just doesn't understand what kind of shape he's in and that it's not possible to go home. I wish he could accept his situation and make the best of it. I know there probably isn't a good answer to this but I just needed to talk about it with somebody. Thanks.
He will be ok eating lunch on his own when you’re not there. He may even strike up a friendship with another resident. If you spend hours each day visiting him and have since he got there, he’s had no chance to acclimate. Go twice a week. You’ll have more to talk about with him.
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