Just a big thank you for all the helpful replies!

Hi, my neighbor is looking for someone to replace me. 

She has no advanced directives in place, no will and no legal nothing. She owns a very modest home outright, would probably sell as is for under 100k.

 I cannot reason with her, and I give up. Thanks to the wonderful replies you so thoughtfully gave me, I learned so much. I am going to focus on me now. I have needs, lots of needs.

 I hope she gets the help she wants. I cannot stand watching someone call the shots and refuse to act responsibly with property and make future plans for eventual decline. I released myself from being party to it. I could not have come to this conclusion if not for this wonderful forum and the great people who post. Thank you!