Long story short I have always been the one to make grown up decisions even when I was just a child. I would always help my mom out and have her back through anything no matter what. Anything I had was hers and if I didn’t have it I would break my neck to make sure she were happy. However, I never knew how much she been using me and taking my kindness for weakness until recently.
I helped her with her moving situations by myself while attending online schooling. I even allowed her to stay with me for a couple of days until she can get help. I live in a housing apartment complex so everyone knows how strict they are. But obviously she doesn’t care and won’t leave. Recently I told her not to smoke in my house because my son had a respiratory infection and she snuck and did it and lied about it when I questioned her. Prior to that I told her not to bring a lot of bags with her because she's not staying but she did anyway. I asked her when she's leaving because she can’t stay. She keeps saying I’m waiting on my letter for voucher for housing, which isn’t a guaranteed. I told her that the management said either she leaves or we all have to get out by next week and she just shrugged and ignored me. She just got a job after 10 years of not wanting to work and never having a job longer than 6 months since I can remember. I’m always helping her, but now I want her out so my son can go back into his own bedroom. Lord knows I regret helping her this last time and desperately wish I could take it back. Sorry this is long I just need to vent and don’t know where else I can go.
Maybe management can help. Explain that it was only suppose to be a couple of days and Mom is taking advantage. Is there a way they can help you? Can the police be called in and then take her to a shelter. Or they can get her temporary housing, like a motel.
Can u pay for a motel room for Mom? Maybe a week at a cheap place. Tell the police you have set up a place they just need to help get her out and to the place. A week will give her time to get to Social Services. They may be able to continue the motel room and maybe speed up the Voucher.
If u get her out, you may want to have management change your locks.
I also wonder, if there is a voucher.
Hope u can get it all worked out. Come back and tell us how things go.
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If she doesn’t cooperate you will need to evict her.
She has shown you who she is, believe her and stop enabling her, she will take advantage of you again, she doesn't care how this affects you.