Well- we went to oncologist today and he was lovely. Revealed that my dad had had two non invasive tumors removed 4 years ago (dad didn't remember) and all clear in 2017, but this was larger, aggressive and invasive tumor. Dad had ignored symptoms for a while as his heart meds were also causing bleeding so a perfect storm of stuff. No cure for this that would be safe and I respect the doc for being so honest and not pushy about challenging treatments. He could try immunotherapy infusions ( which confused the heck out of my dad. ) Would involve getting a PET scan to have a baseline ( that frightened him as he is afraid he is going to obsess about cancer everywhere.) Then monthly infusions with regular scans to make sure they are working- which there is a 30 % chance of. My dad felt very frustrated by that (and has a hard time getting around) so asked if he could do nothing. It is quite amazing to watch your dad accept this diagnosis and I am still crying. He is going to meet with oncologist again in a month, hopefully with my mom and check in. I go back and forth, but I see how weary he is of trying to stay alive for what is becoming an increasingly hard life. My lovely mom is heartbroken, but there for him.
At 92, does your dad want to fight aggressively any kind of cancer? I was only 62 when dxed and told my DH that I was fine with not treating, and he was so shocked. I did it for my kids. It was awful. I would not push anyone I loved to go through this at age 92!!!
For me, the PET scan simply showed exactly where the cancerous nodes were and it was actually fascinating. We caught my cancer in the first 3 months and so it was very treatable, but I will never do chemo again. It's rough and makes you very sick.
Whatever the outcome of the PET scan, if offered chemo to deal with this--be aware that the treatment is probably worse than the cancer.
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