I have been seeing a few posters blasts each other. Not sure why. Maybe stress. Maybe a bad day or mood and they lash out, or it’s simply their personality. It’s disturbing to see and I have a fairly thick skin. Life has a way of toughening us up. I am sensitive to other’s needs. I do have compassion and empathy for all who are struggling.
Sometimes the blasting comes from the OP too when something has been misunderstood. I see answers taken out of context from time to time from posters too. I realize that no one can hear the tone of a voice or see facial expressions so that complicates matters.
Regardless, it’s time to show common courtesy to each other. Respect and kindness go a long way and is certainly more productive.
Of course, anyone can say the wrong thing at times. All of us have done that in life. Apologies also go a long way, then we can move on to help others. Forgiveness is healing.
Helping others is the purpose of this forum. It’s lovely to see gratitude given for helpful answers and best wishes. It’s beautiful that so many participate to help those in need.
Some posters have been kind enough to stay even after their caregiving responsibilities are over.
I am truly grateful for the enormous amount of help that I received.
Thank you, AgingCare forum for being here when I needed you with my mom and as I continue to need you with my concerns with my husband. Please continue to keep us in your prayers and thoughts.
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Don’t stay away. There will be some posters that you can relate to.
Best wishes to you and husband.
My husband was recently diagnosed with cancer. He will start treatments very soon. We are hopeful. Radiation for prostate cancer has a high success rate and we feel it is a better option than surgery.
I feel that we should be respectful in our discussions. Like many others, I get frustrated too. I am not a ‘Pollyanna’ type. I don’t even like Pollyanna personalities. I prefer realists. All of us can try to be cautious when responding to posts, myself included.
It takes time to process information and patience is needed to support others. It’s not abnormal lose patience. It takes practice to gain this virtue.
Injustice gets to all of us, or it should anyway.
I do believe in kindness though, for others and ourselves. I get upset with myself if I have been unfair in a situation. I get annoyed if I am mistreated.
I suppose unpleasantness is all a part of life. We learn to roll with the punches but as a whole, we can do better.
I think the times are tough. Most of us on Aging Care are so kind, and I think so caring. I see a couple of folks who love an argument for the sake of argument, but I have been known to "go there" as well. I am quite liberal, yet all my liberal friends call me "The Devil's Advocate" if you know what that is. I can defend lots of more conservative ideas quite happily. And I sometimes love the fray more than I should.
Your post makes me want to watch myself a bit more. At least for a few days, which is about all I remember stuff anymore!
Wondering if this wouldn't be better in "Discussion", but it is good work to take to heart, whereEVER it is. Thanks NeedHelp.
Best wishes in your caregiving. It is tough.