Today I’m interviewing a facility to place my mom in. I know in my heart it’s the right thing to do but it’s still a very hard decision. If the interview goes well we will also be transferring my MIL down here to the same facility. We would love to have her here so we can see her much more often. I’d really appreciate your prayers. Thank you.
Just was wondering how your mom's move to her new facility went yesterday. I know it's too soon to ask about other aspects but, I'm hoping all of you are feeling some relief and that she will adjust when being around others her age. I know the next step for you and your husband is bringing his mom down and moving her into the same facility which will be great for the both of you having them in the same facility and if I recall correctly, they will be nearby!
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Since I know from my own experience as an only child and having to do what you're doing back in 2015, I went to 8 different places before placing my mom. My husband came to the majority of them with me and others I went on my own while he was at work. I know I had been very disappointed with many of them for one reason or another. The two in which I narrowed it down to, I took her and one of her friends with me so she would feel involved and not whisked away to some strange place without any knowledge. And with COVID I moved her into a 9th place this May where I couldn't even go inside. I went to their website's virtual tour and looked at a map of the floorplans to find where the five available rooms were in their memory care wing. As soon as I picked out the floorplan, we drove down there and went all around the building and picked the best spot which was being tucked in a corner away from the housing development behind the facility and one that had no apartment right next to her.
So my prayer for you today is that the place you are going to be interviewing with will be everything you want and need for your mom and potentially your MIL. I hope you have a list prepared to take with you of questions you want to ask. ALWAYS remember it is a business first. You will be meeting with probably a marketing director which sole purpose is to "sell" you on why you should choose them.
I am not trying to discourage you, I just want you to go in with your eyes wide open. Another thing, don't go overboard with showing emotions of excitement - look at it factually for what "it is." They study your reactions and responses much like a real estate agent. My husband and I learned this the hard way in both types of situations. We would wait until we left and were in the car before expressing any excitement.
May God guide you to making the right decision and also, follow your gut instinct. We especially as women are given that ability and we need to be sure to use it.
I hope you will come back and let us know how everything went!
“If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” - James 1:5
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“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” - Philippians 4:6-7
May you receive peace as you make wise decisions in their best interests.