She's been slowly tugging at it for months. She hates not being able to have solid food, and her diminished cognitive place isn't make it easier to accept. I wasn't sure I was really seeing it, but I suspected she might be slyly tugging at it every now and then when we were looking the other way. She's so sneaky! Now she off to the hospital for a surgery.
Poor old woman. Can't say I blame her.
Have a good day:)
"That's all it really takes, pressure and time. That and a big d*** poster." Lol, for my fellow Shawshank Redemption fans
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Have worked with patients who agreed to feeding tubes (or families who agreed to them for a parent) and then had regrets.
I'd be curious to see what happens with the new feeding tube....does she try to pull it out, too? Is more sedation or restraint needed to keep the tube in place?
Have you and your family discussed with her care team the pros and cons of feeding tubes for someone of an older age? As bodies lose their need for calories, a person often eats less/drinks less/turns their head away if someone tries to feed them. She doesn't have those ways to say no with a feeding tube.
Not a Shawshank fan so pardon me if missing the reference led to to misinterpret your message.
Anyways, she didn't need surgery. Turns out this happens - a lot - and ER fixed her up in about 20 minutes.
She's freaking already watching Dr. Phil again, but you would have scattered her to the wind. Stop being so judgemental, especially about all of the things that you have no empirical or factual insight or you will carry that same load. We don't know each other. Ya know, strangers said the same kind of insensitive, insecure crap during my breast cancer chemo treatments, when my hair fell out. Fifteen, full, wonderful years ago, someone actually said something about " they'd never put that poison into their body" while they were stuffing a double beef & cheese burrito in their face. Swear that really did happen. Good grief, too easy.
PS, She can still have ice cream, etc., but how would you've have ever known that?? We don't know each other.
I hope your MIL does good with the surgery and makes a speedy recovery.