This thought popped up in my head while posting to a question.
"I'm here to help people find a way, not be the way"
As I have said before. I worked as a secretary for a Visiting Nurse Assoc. Part of my duties was finding services for our clients and residents of the Township. I had a table set up with booklets from County resources. Food closets in the area. Assisted Livings and homecare agencies in the area. I was in charge of our Durable equipment rentals and helped distribute food thru our Food closet. I liked helping. I liked giving that foot up. But I disliked those who abuse the system. That think I should do everything to get what they need. No, sorry, I point you in right direction and you go from there. And if I do go the extra mile, you better follow thru because I will not help you again.
There are people that will just allow you to take the reins and do everything for them. But you're disabling them. And you end up feeling resentful and I so hate that feeling.
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink and you can't drink the water for them.
Many new posters can be redirected to this as a starter idea.
Speaking of horses & water... wonder how my dehydrated family members are today
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Understand that depression can make one feel completly helpless and hopeless. But if you feel that way, you've got to reach out for help to treat the depression, not "fix" all the other stuff.
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I think we DO both DISable and ENable, almost co people by sympathizing.
It is also to be remembered that when an OP writes us about how cruelly they are treated we are hearing ONE side, THEIR side.
And it is so true, that we can lead them to water. Whether they drink or not is on them.
I love this post.