And just like that, it’s over.

I have gotten so much good, helpful advice the last few years from this group. My mother got sick last November with sepsis; went to a nh for rehab (miracle she survived the sepsis). It became clear very quickly that she was not going to come home and had given up completely. The nursing home took abysmal care of her (only my husband stopping in daily for two months kept them from killing her). I was able to get back home from my job in late January just in time to close on two houses, move, and see her get a second round of septic shock. She was also bleeding internally somewhere but couldn’t withstand the tests necessary to figure it out. I had her HCPOA and we decided that her DNR would be engaged. She went to hospice on a Tuesday and my sister finally decided to put in an appearance on Thursday. She passed very peacefully on that Friday evening. The hospice and hospital were top notch. Very helpful with hard decisions and her comfort. My sister stuck around long enough to grab some jewelry and high tailed it home before any hard work could begin. It was a long few months, but in the end she went to be with my dad like she wanted and I really felt we all (hubby and I) did the best we could. It’s still not completely sunk in, but I’m sure it’s coming.