What have you learned as a caregiver?

I have been a member of this forum since last year in May and it has been a HUGE help. Along with the forum and counseling, I wanted to share a few things that I have learned that have helped me on this journey.
1. It is not my fault that my father is no longer able to completely take care of himself. Aging is a privilege because some people do not live to be elderly. I know that sometimes being elderly comes with many health issues and etc but it is part of life.
2. I'm continuing to learn not to care what others think. I have had a few people make comments that let me know they think I should sell my home, quit my job and take care of him full time. Most of these people have never held a professional job, are over 60 themselves, and are financially stable. Therefore, they have no understanding of what my needs are. As my mom use to say, "consider the source."
3. Make a list of all you have done for your loved one. I guarantee that when you look at the list, you will see that you have been THE ONE who has been there the entire time.
4. Your loved one will try to make you feel guilty and this is tough but if you have done and are doing your best, what else on earth can you do???
5. People will try to give you advice, but they are unwilling to help you with your loved one and it is often it is funny because I had someone ask if my father was moving in with me or if I was moving in with him. This person's mother has been in a facility for years.
6. Be strong and stick to your needs!!

Happy New Year!!!