For those who struggle to say no and are "people pleasers" at the core, like I have been, I found a good, concise book / audiobook that is quite helpful. The audiobook is just 2.5 hours. The paperback in 170 pages. Very readable. I like such a focused and compact book. I hate it when books on such topics are hundreds of pages/ hours of audiobook with a lot of fluff.
anyway, here is the Amazon link:
https://www.amazon.com/Art-Saying-NO-Reclaim-Granted/dp/1549572741/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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It is sooooo hard to do, and I remember the first time I gave it a try; I was sooo uncomfortable. I remember the exact situation involving my daughter asking me for help with something. I used to help from my psychologist to give the "no" I had to start learning to give. It had a nasty response and I remember saying "I'm so sorry to disappoint you, but not sorry I have to learn to say 'no' more in order to save myself".
It got easier each time.
And boy, I am GOOD AT IT NOW!
We cannot save the world.
Thanks for the recommend, Strugglin