I found my mother’s perception of value skewed as her dementia worsened plus she liked to play hiding games.
She was certain thieves robbed her house daily, but they wouldn’t take cash off the dining room table. She was certain they’d steal (for example) a pillowcase she’d embroidered, so she’d hide it. She only considered value from her own perspective.
She also liked to hide her purse and say it had been stolen so I’d search her house. One day, as she summoned me (my husband or kids) for the 7th time, she slipped and muttered “This time you’ll never find it.” Instead of helping her find “lost” or “stolen” items, we started saying “Oh, sorry to hear it’s gone.”
I felt like most of it was attention seeking behaviour. She had to create conflict and drama. And get us to do things for her.
I'd also be having a VERY secure place for my handbag, wallet, car keys & anything else I valued.
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I found my mother’s perception of value skewed as her dementia worsened plus she liked to play hiding games.
She was certain thieves robbed her house daily, but they wouldn’t take cash off the dining room table. She was certain they’d steal (for example) a pillowcase she’d embroidered, so she’d hide it. She only considered value from her own perspective.
She also liked to hide her purse and say it had been stolen so I’d search her house. One day, as she summoned me (my husband or kids) for the 7th time, she slipped and muttered “This time you’ll never find it.” Instead of helping her find “lost” or “stolen” items, we started saying “Oh, sorry to hear it’s gone.”
I felt like most of it was attention seeking behaviour. She had to create conflict and drama. And get us to do things for her.
Good luck staying patient! I truly feel for you.
Did you find it when you weren’t looking for it? That’s usually when I find something.