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About anything. How your feeling right now, how things are going, what upsets you, to just talk to other caregivers who "get it". I care for my husband and need to talk here sometimes.
Ahhh, that sounds sad in regard to your post needhelpwithmom. Could she live with your family? I'm sure you thought of that. Seems like something needs to change. Big hug to you.
Okay, I catch myself venting about stupid stuff! hahaha, like not winning the lottery when I don't even buy tickets. Isn't that dumb??? I see a winner on television and I think, oh! That should be me, then I could afford to put mom in a very nice place and I could take my dream vacation! I just need a break! I miss my husband and kids. I miss my life as it was before. I had so many dreams when I married.
Hi dtgray, Regarding what you said, I know it's easy for me to say bu t yes, she needs to wear something. Try to get her to always have these "undies" on. Hugs to you. Hang in there.
Yes, as it happens, I do; and I am grateful for this purpose designed thread, thank you.
On Page 15 of my daily newspaper there is a charming and heart-warming photograph. It shows a very elderly lady seated in an armchair, with her right arm in a sling. Standing next to her is a pretty little girl, aged perhaps four or five. The two are reading a book entitled "Getting Up." The little girl's tongue is poked out in concentration, and the elderly lady is laughing uproariously.
The story is about a care home which is about to open new shared premises with a nursery school. Play sessions with toddlers are to be formally prescribed for elders with depression. This move is the outcome of a five month study into the effects of intergenerational interaction on 40 residents in their eighties, nineties and hundreds, mirrored with a study into the learning and behavioural benefits to children attending the nursery.
So why am I fit to burst? This is the care home my siblings didn't think my mother, the retired teacher, would take to.
I almost lost it night. I felt like I kept arguing with my mom and she was being bull headed. She has inconvenience, knows it, keeps not making it but refuses to wear protection. She needs it badly. I got so tired I gave up on it.
It seems most caregivers are for parents... on these forums, probably not...but it seems that way..I care for my wife...6 years older..I am 66... recently retired.... I am not sure what stage of dementia she is in..maybe “mid-mild”...has been going on for 5-7 years...but most noticeable the last couple of years. I am loosing my patience more frequently...and it is really disturbing...sometimes I fall into the trap...and “play the game” It is not her fault and I would trade places with her in a heart beat...I am concerned since it is not near as bad as it will get....her short term memory is still good enough to remember when I loose my patience... Most recently it has been her “alternative reality”. I am not sure if it is real hallucinations or what but it is very disturbing.. She has historically suffered from depression and lately...loneliness...especially since she doesn’t drive due to anxiety (mostly) about traffic and now her previous friends ignore her like the plague, so she depends on me for entertainment... I am worried as to how I will cope when it gets really bad...we have one daughter that is single and lives about 1500 miles away..future help from family is out of the question...
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
On Page 15 of my daily newspaper there is a charming and heart-warming photograph. It shows a very elderly lady seated in an armchair, with her right arm in a sling. Standing next to her is a pretty little girl, aged perhaps four or five. The two are reading a book entitled "Getting Up." The little girl's tongue is poked out in concentration, and the elderly lady is laughing uproariously.
The story is about a care home which is about to open new shared premises with a nursery school. Play sessions with toddlers are to be formally prescribed for elders with depression. This move is the outcome of a five month study into the effects of intergenerational interaction on 40 residents in their eighties, nineties and hundreds, mirrored with a study into the learning and behavioural benefits to children attending the nursery.
So why am I fit to burst? This is the care home my siblings didn't think my mother, the retired teacher, would take to.
I am not sure what stage of dementia she is in..maybe “mid-mild”...has been going on for 5-7 years...but most noticeable the last couple of years.
I am loosing my patience more frequently...and it is really disturbing...sometimes I fall into the trap...and “play the game” It is not her fault and I would trade places with her in a heart beat...I am concerned since it is not near as bad as it will get....her short term memory is still good enough to remember when I loose my patience...
Most recently it has been her “alternative reality”.
I am not sure if it is real hallucinations or what but it is very disturbing..
She has historically suffered from depression and lately...loneliness...especially since she doesn’t drive due to anxiety (mostly) about traffic and now her previous friends ignore her like the plague, so she depends on me for entertainment...
I am worried as to how I will cope when it gets really bad...we have one daughter that is single and lives about 1500 miles away..future help from family is out of the question...
Does this fit the mold of venting?
Thanks
Tim