What to do about manipulating boyfriend of elder mom. He even puts on a wedding ring to throw me off to think that they got married. I ask my mom and she says no and that she has no intention of getting remarried at the age of 85. My mom has been in and out of hospital and he has been staying at her house, "to protect it". I had an alarm system put in it years ago. No need for him to be there. He fills her head with garbage - "people are breaking in, someone is stealing your stuff", etc. He is the only one there. I am Health Care Proxy and Durable Power of Attorney. Not sure what I can do to get this leach away from my mom.
Heading to her house this weekend to make sure he gets out then change the keys. It's 3 nights away from mom (who's at my house), but not exactly the respite I need! Hopefully I won't have to start eviction proceedings. Ugh.
Difficult situation to be in.
Fast forward a month later - My mom, due to being well cared for in the AL, starts to feel physically better, even though her dementia has worsened. She thinks that she is well enough to go home, her boyfriend picks her up and takes her to her home, where he is currently living. He is now working very hard to isolate her from family and friends, not having her return phone calls and to reject any offers of visits or outings by others.
Also, it is a good idea for you to establish relationships with all of the key people your mother does business with, like banks, stock brokers, doctors, etc., so they are aware of your mother's condition, and if anything "strange” occurs, they will contact you.
These steps have proved invaluable to me, as I manage the medical and financial affairs of my parents, both of whom are in their mid-90’s.
Good luck to you!
Thanks Need4 for the info on Undue Influence. I dealt with a host of mom friends who made it so much worse.
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