Read this quote in one of the forums and realized that some of the problems stemming from elder cargiving may be due to a future inheritence. I keep wondering why all these caregivers are willing to go through with all the horrors of caring for undeserving elderly relatives. My mother is basically trying to do that with her four heirs; me, my two sisters and a usless lazy stepsister. The stepsister is the only one concerned about her due rights inheritence. My sisters and I could care less. Me and one of my sisters are the only ones that have been able to help her and not because of the inheritence. I know I will never take on the care of my elderly mother until she uses all that blood money first for her care. I will not be held hostage to an inheritence!
As Pinocchio sang (in the Disney version!), "There are NO STRINGS ON ME!".
That was before it became common to live 20 to 30 years beyond retirement.
Most non-wealthy people are now lucky if they can support themselves and pay for their medical care without some kind of financial aid before they die, let alone have enough left over to pass on to heirs.
If non-wealthy elders need care and they are dangling an inheritance as an incentive and the potential heirs are buying into that myth, then all parties are living in a fairy tale. Ain't gonna happen, folks.