My mom died 2 weeks ago, now my dad refuses to grieve or accept any assistance with the housework. He is selling his house and moving into an apt building right next to mine and is depending on me to be his caretaker. He CAN cook for himself, but everything else is up to me. I have Fibromyalgia and arthritis in both knees.
I guess I already know what I need and should do, I have a wonderful therapist who understands me and my situation completely.
I just needed to get this out of my mind.
Thanks for listening!
Two weeks is not enough time for reality to set in. I hope you both can grieve, take some time, get some breathing room. My condolences to you and your Dad:)
I went overboard, I tried to be the only person (and I am an only child) to "make it all better" and promised much, too much. It's been 18 years and I am tired of being the widowed parent's "crutch." This parent considers herself first in line before my spouse and children It's been very stressful.
If caregiving becomes part of some "agreement" you'd better get your "chore list" and compensation defined ahead of time. If you don't know how to phrase it, then ask a specialist for help. Good luck.