It really angers me when my controlling and manipulative sibling (one of the twins again) makes a decision about a change in Mom's care without ASKING ME. I get a call from the oldest TELLING me that the other twin is coming back (she can never make up her mind if she's in or out) to take care of Mom on Monday's. This one is disruptive in so many ways, brings her boyfriend (who does help with Mom) and her kid after school. Has Mom watching spanish television which she doesn't understand a word of, eats me out of house and home and freaking starts texting me at 2 p.m. about what time I'm going to be home when they know I work from 8-5 and work 45 minutes away from home and won't be home till 5:45 MAYBE and the latest at 6, unless there is a last minute crisis at the office or I have to get to the store.....ugh so I get the message from the oldest, and then we get in a conversation about what time everyone decides to get here or how much time they can spend with Mom that day and it makes me feel like they are saying "I don't want to spend the whole day or that much time with Mom" really....so what is the question or statement going to be when she dies? Venting against or to I should say to the eldest ....maybe I need to go back to counseling....I'm very offended with this attitude of "if I have time, or one day I'll come and be a part of the group and the next day I have more important things to do." Bottom line is I don't get those choices....