because of her refusal to help me with caregiving, and she has had many chances to turn it around, in other words, to start helping me, but she didn't. I just wanted to say that I am disappointed beyond belief by her actions, and that she has lost all respect from me. She has virtually done nothing all these years to help out, and her days are wide-open, so she clearly has the time. It's all about her! What a lazy, selfish bum!!! Would love to hear stories of similar problems with siblings!
So sometimes the lack of help is brought upon a sibling and/or parent due to their behavior. I am not saying that applies to your situation at all but just another side to the "my sibling won't help" story I often read about on this site.
We are all responsible, to a degree, for our parents being cared for. But there are many definitions of how to care for that parent. It is not always a hands on situation and it is often not an easy task.
There is JOY serving our parents in their sickness and helplessness. I've learned SO much and am better for it... but I've also lost respect/relationships with my siblings who have ignored Mom... I pray for them..