I am not looking forward to Thanksgiving Day when my sister makes one of her two or three visits a year (even though she lives 20 minutes from our folks), and brings her obligatory box of candy. It's unfortunate that the non-helping siblings are very much a part of the family. I am planning to schedule the Thanksgiving dinner early in the day, to frankly, get it over with. How are you folks planning to handle Thanksgiving day, and are you looking forward to it?
I have had really depressing holidays, believe me I am no pollyanna. In spite of loosing my dad and favorite uncle last year, I will enjoy these holidays. My stress levels are down, I am healthy and employed and in a loving relationship. There are some things in my life I wish otherwise, but I will focus on my blessings and give thanks.
Peace Joy and Love to all.
L
On Christmas I have the same family over for dinner but for the last 12 years since my Mom's been with me I've invited all siblings and their families over later for desserts/cocktails. Well not this year if they can't call or visit mom during the year, then I'm not going to make it easy for them to see her on Christmas. I'm going to tell them if they want to have Christmas at their house then "have at it". I guess Mom won't see them then!!!
The last time 3 of them saw her was in August because I had a graduation party for my daughter. Since then no phone calls to Mom' nothing!!!
I have a good friend with a large home and beautiful family, she opens her home to singles and solos every year, for just about every holiday. You would be surprised how many people are divorced, divorcing, widowed, alone in town, or any other reason for feeling lonely on a holiday. A few years I old have proffered friends over family, I chose family, and it was the right decision for me.
I do believe there is a special place in heaven for my friend.
Perhaps you can make evening plans, for yourself ith friends. Or let sis sit with mom on Friday and book yourself a spa day.
Regards
L