I wanted to let everyone know, Mark is close to death. His kidneys and liver have shut down. They have ceased dialysis and blood pressure meds are no longer working. His heart is about to fail. They will rescind the DNR as he is intubated and on the highest doses of painkillers. He is unconscious and will pass in either hours or days.
One thing I know for certain, NONE OF US knows what we would do in a situation until we are faced with the reality Of being in the situation. His family needs someone to blame and it appears those pick you, that doesn't mean that you have to listen or engage with them.
Glad to read you are not getting rid of your pups for your mom.
Take care of you and try to disconnect from their hateful garbage.
I hear ya and I'm right there with you, in my life.
You don't have to talk to the SIL, or any of them. I get how hard when you get a phone call not to answer it. But honestly you like me can't change a dam thing! What is talking to these people that seem to want to see Mark suffer , changing. The only thing it changes is makes your anxiety worse. You are a realist . What is all this worry helping, not a darn thing.
Keep us posted doggiemom
Avoid futile or burdonsome treatments where you can.
Attempting to do CPR on someone in a severley frail or terminal stage (to me) is all three: harm, futile, burdonsome.
I trust that Nephew finds the right person to easy any confusion he has over a DNR. It is not about 'doing nothing' & never about artificially 'ceasing life'.
It is about avoiding harm & dignity.
As for SIL the good news is you don't have to talk to her. She has no idea what she is talking about and is just lashing out at you. You went above and beyond for Mark and put up with a lot from him and even though you finally initiated the divorce you were always showing care and concern and love for him.
I am confused about the DNR do you mean the nephew thinks it's unethical to sign one? I think thats what you meant based on the hospital saying it would just prolong the inevitable.
{{{{{hugs too!}}}}}
It always seems to me that words are not enough at times like these.
Please know that I feel for you and pray that you can feel the support of those on this site who care and would wrap their arms around you if they could.
(((DoggieMom)))
I sure hope that hospice has been brought on board.
I'm sure you are sad for him and for what should have and could have been, but everything works out the way it should. I'm just glad that you're near family now.
May the Lord bless you and keep you.
I'm sure Mark is not in any pain and hardest on those who care.
Hold in there, I wouldnt make any plans right now about your mom and pup. You need to get past this first.