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Sun, I have heard of those 'Adult Coloring Books' and actually have seen them near the check-out at the market, but did not look at them. What, do they have pornography inside or something? (re:Adult classification). Just don't think the coloring books would work for me because I don't want to color inside the lines.
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Sun, Sorry you had a rotten day.
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meh, whatever .
i worked 11 hours today , got home , and the lemon pie that i thought was mediocre last night , is crunchy and pretty good tonight .
yay , my decisions last night . !!
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I have a twitch in my lower left eye, that is driving me crazy! I think it is from the stress of the last few weeks! Does anyone know how to get rid of Twitches? Absolutely Nutty!
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Stacey, I have those in the upper lid of my eyes whenever I'm under extreme stress. (When I got divorced, I thought I'd never be able to hold my eye open again, it got so bad. People thought I had a terminal wink.)

All I can say is try to de-stress. Deep breathing, meditation, walk in the fresh air, whatever works for you. There's no remedy for stress-related symptoms other than eliminating the stress.
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Thank you Susan, I'm working on it! Getting that old stress out of my life! Lol!
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Hey Stacey try Magnesium. I had a twitch under my left eye for a month once and magnesium for a couple of days did the trick.
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Thanks Gershun! I've been inundated with some very good suggestions! I'll try anything once! Lol, I know that it will eventually go away, but damn, it is annoying! Thanks Love!
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Stacey, I hate it when I have the eye twitches. I get the little jiggers under my eye sometimes. They go away, but sure are annoying. Some people say it helps not to drink caffeine. What??!! No coffee. I wouldn't be able to live and breathe.

The twitching does go away, though. No worries.
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OMG....Stacey, thank you for posting about this....Thursday, I started having this totally annoying, involuntary twitch under my left eye.....soooo irritating and totally uncontrollable....GRRR....
Can't tell you how disappointed I was this AM when it started up again....ARGHHH....
Gershun...thanks so much for the tip about magnesium....will try....
Jessie...I'm w/you....NOT giving up my AM caffeine....No Way!
Susan...yes, might be stress-related: 4AM call from Night Nurse at ALF....Mom fell out of bed (again) and hit her head, going to ER, 10:30AM call from neighbor to tell me neighbor J passed away night before, 6AM:
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OOOPS....6AM: horrendous rat-a-tat-tatting, drilling on metal sound....coming from garage?....WTH?.....well....guy who originally built my house had a workshop at back of 2 car attached garage w/ furnace or wood-burning stove (removed before my time). Metal exhaust chimney still there on rear of garage roof.....

Apparently, I have a family (or soon to be) of woodpeckers who have moved into that chimney this Spring....from 6AM til sunset....drill, drill, drill away....loud, reverberating, metallic drilling....it's enough to give you "twitches".....lol.....what's next???

Well, you know what they say about "great minds think alike".....hmmmm....maybe "great twitchers", too....
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I am actually now totally fed up of mums lies - so much so that if I stay in this flat with her today I know that by the end of play I will have called in Social services to take her and I will sell the flat. I just cannot cope any longer with constant criticism and lies. Today we have pee and poop in her bathroom on the floor and she didn't do it .... I did. When I said don't be silly how could it me I got the full vitriol. I have walked away and she is now screaming for a shower well not screaming just being her normal manipulative self. I so can't shower her right now I am so so angry - really angry. Time to walk away a down I think. Thanks for letting me rant. I will be OK I am just mad
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So it is not just me that feels suddenly like once the parents are gone I am "it".Like, where is this all going and where am I going now? It does make you aware of your own mortality no matter how close you were to your parents or other LO. Having gone through all this makes me think now a lot about my younger days, what I used to like to do, people I knew, music I listened to etc. I also spent much time with the adult coloring books while my Mom was in her last months so much that I got tired of all the flower and paisley patterns, however, they were essential and got me through a very rough time.
I am trying to keep very busy at this stage. Mom left a lot to deal with but it feels good having things to do to get me out of bed in the morning and I try to counterbalance the work with some me time. I hope everyone has a better day and stay strong. Day at a time.
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Mina, I'm so sorry you lost your sweet neighbor, I know you loved him so! Its so nice that you had that long standing positive relationship with him and his wife!
Twitches, OH CRAP! What a bugger, mine has thankfully settled down for the moment probably because it is the middle of the night and allof my stressors are sleeping at the moment, Lol!
I sure hope your Mom is OK, after her fall! When it rains it pours!
Get one of those plastic owls, they say that they eork, for detering woodpeckers, but if you already have a nest with chickies, then I don't know! I have a couple of woodpeckers who love to tap on my metal chimney top too, it completely freaks my doggie out, when it does this, as it reverberates all the way down. It's funny to watch her try to figure out where the sound is coming from!
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Katie, I'm still trying to figure out how to deal with the loss of my Mom and Dad 13 years later! I sure could use6her wisdom right now, in dealing my FIL issues! She would always know exactly what to do! I miss them both so much it hurts! I've really been thinking about them a lot lately! It helps me a lot, to have my sisters close by, they reminds me so much of the, so that helps keep their memory alive. My problem is looking forward, to a time when We all start failing, and how we will deal with it! Not a good thing to do, future trip!
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Oh Phoenix, I'm right there with you in the FED UP DEPARTMENT! My husband is retreating into his depression and frustration, and my FIL is oblivious that he is the one causing all of the trouble in my home, as he is a big fat Narcissist, and only ever thinks about himself! Why don't you and I run away together, somewhere nice and tropical, where we are served our potent fruity drinks with little umbrellas! Now that is what I need right friggin now! Sorry Love, wish things were going smoother for you! Big Hugs!
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Thanks Stacey - she ended up throwing a cup of hot tea at me it missed but she won't ever do it again well not with that mug and I know it was her favourite - It is now in bits because I made sure she sat and watched while I took a hammer to it and I enjoyed every friggin minute of it....how DARE she throw hot tea at me....its the dementia not her ..... I KNOW BUT THAT DOESNT MAKE IT EASIER! and breathe
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What a case you are Phoenix! That must have been worth seeing. Have you been planning it for a long time?
Can you leave unwanted relatives at a church or firestation like you can unwanted babies? You really are an inspiration. If she doesn't shut up about the shower take her to the carwash.
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Rant away. I hope someone doesn't dare say, she's just sick, don't be mad at her. Even if that is true, sometimes we just don't want to hear that. Grrr. Some of the stuff we put up with!! and then the sympathy goes to the elder. Grrr.
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Hey, I only yelled like a demented harpy, I didn't get out a hammer! LOL LOL
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I am so contained that it's no wonder I'm crazy. Sometimes I feel that it is all going to build up and I'll go as crazy as Jack Nicholson in The Shining. Heeeeere's JessieBelle.
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You know, it may be a good time for a general gripe session. Meal times are a big issue with me here. I usually eat breakfast at 9:00 after I take care of the rabbit and have some coffee. Lately my mother has taken over my breakfast time. She makes her own breakfast and doesn't want anyone else in the kitchen. It takes her about an hour. It's 9:30 now and I'm hungry! and she's still cooking.

And dinnertime -- I cook and tell her when things will be ready. She sits and does nothing. When things are done, she gets up and says she has to go to the bathroom. She often has an accident, so has to change her pajama bottoms. About 20 minutes later she shows up for dinner. I'm just about done eating mine and hers is cold. I try to get her to get ready sooner, but she won't. I think she enjoys doing it like this. She gets to eat most of her meal by herself as I put away things and go give the rabbit dinner. This evening ritual makes me think of the kids and husband who suddenly have to use the bathroom and wash their hands when Mom rings the dinner bell.
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I have an aide come in 6 hours a day and dont think i could avoid burnout without it. Sat I have 12 hours off. My older kids and husband and pets need me too. The lawyer tells me at some point the money will run out and she'll have to go back to the godforesaken incredibly understaffed nursing home. Hopefully when that happens we'll find one that doesnt leave her in her own pee or poop for 2.5 hours. I know part of that is her. She enjoys being known as nice. I'm sitting in poop with a sore already on my bum, everyone on the floor is gonna know it after a polite grace period. :)
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I wish I had someone coming in. I would love to have a maid to clean the front part of the house. Mom says no, no, no, though, so I clean when I get around to it. I'm doing it this weekend, since Brother is coming to town on Monday. I would love to be rich and have maids coming in and lawn people and someone to keep the maintenance up on the house. Oh, and I want a mansion and a Mercedes while I'm at it. :-D
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OK now, cue the music...Janis Joplin... everybody join in:
Oh, lord, won't you buy me a mercedes benz... lol
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Let me explain about the hammer! I had to put up 2 more pictures in Mums room. I didn't know it needed doing because she had only told me about 4o times since yesterday afternoon. So once she started again this morning I thought Darn I will do it now just to shut her up (OK I know that is enabling but h3ll I need some peace - why on earth do I always think that if I do something she wants she will be quiet - nope she just goes to the next one on her dementia minded list ...has anyone noticed that they might forget a lot but that list of gripes always seems to stay front and centre!)
So I had the hammer in my hand when she threw the mug at me and it was the hammer that deflected it to be fair but in the heat of the moment I smashed the mug to smithereens I was so bloody angry. Things have been very quiet since then. I even managed to catch 2 hours sleep without her couching dropping something or ringing her bell which I had conveniently lost but my oh so helpful little angel of a grandson found for her grrrrrrrrr
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coughing not couching
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IF I HAD A HAMMER!....cue that song now!
I would have been able to break that plate as I was trying to crash it into the trash can-just last night, omg! My dH had taken the small amount of food left in the pan and dumped it into the non-garbage disposal side of the sink just as I had served his dinner, clogging the sink. Well, he wanted to clean the pan-go eat your dinner, d@mn it, and stop with the before eating rituals!
YOU LOOK DISGUSTED, he says this morning.

Why is this happening-a newer behavior and I cannot stop him. Why is it happening to others on here too? Something in the air in the U.S. and the U.K.?
He was scarily grouchy all day yesterday-a common repetition of many Saturdays. And my own moods-wanting to crash and break dishes?
Where is my hammer? Oh, he thinks it is his and has hidden my little tiny red toolbox, forcing me to ask him. Now, I need to get some real help.
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Jessebelle, Mealtime is a huge issue here too. As I serve him he comes into the kitchen for every little thing, spices, sauces, standing in the way so I get to eat cold food. He likes cold and old food, but I am last. A nice hot breakfast would be nice. McDonald's is serving breakfast, one would think I could get in the car and go.
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Cwillie, perfect! Your song and timing are a perfect antidote to escalating anger. It is going to be harder to find that hammer today to break that plate, because-this is true-the Lord had already given me a mercedes benz-looking back on that time in my life and the here and now of much less-guess I won't be breaking my favorite blue flowered plate!
Still, the anger provoked by someone else's bad behavior is scary.
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