I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
But I had a headache this morning and had already decided not to do much till later.
So much for that; however, I feel ok and it is done except for sorting through the bin of "junk" that had collected there and deciding what to do with it.
Amongst other things, I have two old recipe boxes with some recipes that I don't use any more but hate to toss. And, no, dd isn't interested in them. I may go through them and keep a token few. So many memories there - Mrs Heuser's (a friend of mother's) turkey stuffing, Laura's (was a babysitter for the kids) Brew - a hamburger dish, apple cake (from an old friend who died some years ago, Fool Proof pastry (from my ex mil)and so on...
Just want to put this out there. The minor irritations become huge issues to me when I am not feeling good. Or when I have nothing better to do but focus on what my neighbor(s) are doing. I don't mean to minimize these problems for others, or to make light of them. And I am the last person who has a good solution. I probably get more angry or irritated about it than most. The neighbors have not a clue how many times I have called the police (in my head). Or tried to think up a way to make them stop.
When the new neighbor with a very loud motorcycle comes and goes (early or late), I was jumping out of bed, running to the front window's, saying to dH, "look, look, what can we do?" and "How can he get away with that?" So when the many many motorcycle incidents are on the news, I had to stop any negative thought about my neighbor, it was that bad. So I had to change my attitude and my thinking, or become a bad person.
And the neighbor who had boundary issues moved, then moved again and has died.
I hope it helps one person to tell themselves, this issue will be taken care of by time. I don't ever want to wish that my neighbor (s) would die because of a boundary dispute. And I cannot afford to get angry.
But time has taken care of the neighbors who drove over my plants; time has taken care of the bully, and time will take care of the loud motorcycle guy.
And I don't have to report him, confront him, or get upset, or even run to the front window's. Because there are other neighbors who he is bothering too. I will be okay if someone opens up their window to blast loud music.
As for the strip of grass growing higher, keep it long, have someone go out there and hand trim it like a hedge, neaten it up, let it be it's own natural fence, but trimmed up neat.
Cwillie haha! That’s true, anything can be fixed but it might be ugly! We aren’t YET at the point where there’s brawls and holes in the door but that day is coming. I am kind of surprised it took this long for the kids to cause this kind of damage though.
Some people hate. Don't allow their hate to hurt your feelings.
I know what you mean trying to figure out WHY.
If you are able to share right away your hurt feelings, as you already did, it won't hurt as much, or as long, imo. You have every right to be angry and to wonder WHY. This is more for myself or others having the same issues. I know you've got this CWillie.
Me and 1500 other caregivers will show up at his house on Halloween, ok?
Late at night.
With a special lawn treatment to help the grass grow.
It is true that when you are busy or feeling better, the noises seem less intrusive. We have been running clean air machines and a portable dehumidifier to drown out the noise from the factory. No one seems to want to do anything about it as I am sure the city is receiving huge tax money from the place. I am making a 2 yr. plan to move and this gets me though each day, (and night). If it's not bad neighbors right next door, it seems to be the environment around one that attacks!
Why sit in the ER til midnight as support person & *advocate* if I have no actual authority?
No-one can find the medical POA thay may have been signed yonks ago. Nothing else legal done - no enduring POA & big concerns now about capacity to sign.
I think living alone for her is unsafe (8 falls in 12 mths). I scaled back from *attending falls at home* to *I'll meet you in ER*. Next... just a phone call to ER. Let the SW make a plan...
Feeling harsh today.
A quick-thinking vet tech turned off the washing machine (the laundry volunteer wanted me to wait 30 minutes til the cycle ended!) and retrieved my jacket. As it turned out, my cellphone model is pretty well waterproof, and it wasn’t hurt. It even looks cleaner.
But I turned it to a nice religious station with pleasant music and scenes of mountains and water falls. That helped. Thank goodness they have that now. I still remember the old days when all you had was the sound of the drill in your ear. Argh!
Every time she does that, the dog pees on the tile floor. It's in the same spot every time -- a spot where you must step in order to enter/exit the kitchen. It is a major slipping hazard.
I've pointed out that this is a problem. My mom pouted, but I thought she had gotten the point.
I just walked into the kitchen in bare feet and stepped in a puddle of dog pee.
If my mom knows that the dog always pees in that spot, why does she keep putting the dog there?
If she knows the dog always pees there, why doesn't she check for a puddle before she takes the dog back into her room?
I am so angry right now.
The pee spot must be bleached so nature does not take control, and the dog taken outside regularly. Maybe she can no longer do that? There must be a place in the master suite that the dog also pees if it is not getting out on a schedule.
Sorry this is so frustrating. You will get angry, even more if you did not want responsibility for the dog. That is understandable.
Can you make the dog your friend? When we write to you, then we can say:
"Yeah, you and your little dog too!".
I have a buyer for my house and will be moving into the condo I bought last year after my husband died. It will be nice to have yard work, repairs, snow and ice removal done by someone else. I’m going to take three weeks off work to make my move. Excited for the changes.
Do let us know what plans you have after you settle into your new place. So happy for you.
Why is Mom keeping the dog on a leash? Poor thing can't walk around on her own. I'd be peeing on the kitchen floor, too, if I was being treated that way... [sigh].
And don't forget, when you retire you do all of those things instead of working, not as well as.