I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
He wasn’t a ‘biker’ type of guy. Ordinary kind of guy. My husband’s boss who is a white collar very educated man, extremely wealthy guy just bought an expensive motorcycle that he rides to work daily. My husband says he’s having a mid life crisis.
Now I have nothing against these dogs but why can't someone get a good old-fashioned mutt. Nothing pretty or trendy..........just an ordinary old dog. It seems status is everything. Even with the pets you get. My own family has always been ultra competitive to the nth degree. My sisters always get the persian cats or the ragdoll. I've got a couple of tabbies who I think are pretty darn cute. Instead of saying anything nice about them my one sister says "oh, my cat is so much cuter" Gosh, does everything have to be about one upping everyone?
Also, I tire of the sarcastic banter. I run into a neighbor and it's stupid comments that are meant to be funny. What happened to just straight talk. Why does everyone have to be amusing all the time. I know I'm guilty of this but sometimes isn't it nice to just be normal and boring?
I vie to try to be normal and boring for a while.
Can't believe there's such a thing as competitive cuteness, smh.
On the opposite side, to cheer you up, there's a website called "rate my dog" or something like that - people send in pictures of their dogs, and the moderators and voters come up with a score. One soulless or obtuse person complained that ALL of the dogs were getting maximum scores no matter what they looked like or were claimed to be capable of and argued that it made the exercise meaningless. The chief moderator mildly replied to him "they're all good dogs, Brett."
That's what I like, a website where you can say "look at my dog! My dog is the world's best dog!" and everybody will understand the point and agree with everybody else.
"This is fantastic.
The guy who originally argued with WeRateDogs because he didn’t get their gimmick just got a dog and they rated it."
Backstory: https://t.co/cT8FmWQR8y
Brent (sorry, not Brett) has been welcomed to the fold and his dog got 14/10.
I am an only child, my father has passed, my Mother came to live with us 29 years ago. I had only been married 10 years. It was OK as she took care of herself but is very dependent on us, but now it’s been 3 years she has Louie Body dementia, 3 years ago she woke up, like she was in the twilight zone, didn’t know where she was, decided I was her sister, and acted as if she had never been in our house before. She has never been married no children. Believing all the people in her life who have passed are alive and well, and much younger than they really are.
But she has been here 27 years. We brought her to the hospital turns out she had a UTI, ad was told she would return to normal soon. It never happened! She drives me crazy, now she is only able to walk with me assisting her with the walker, she has no balance. If we go anywhere I have to put her in a wheelchair. And if I go anywhere I must bring her, cause she will fall if she tries to get up. She is living in the past wants to go home, to her Mother & Father. She is 91, I have to diaper her, feed her, bathe her, put her to bed and watch her constantly. She makes no sense at all, she tells me the other lady just gave me food, that other lady is me. She has imaginary people around her she gives them names. Tells me someone is in her bed. When she could walk, I would go in her room and find all her things that were on her dresser in the drawers, cause they are coming to steal her things. Or she will ask to pack her things to go home. This goes on daily, like a bad dream. She has no memory I tell her that we are going to the Doctor, about 20 minutes later she will say I never told her that. Or if we go out to to groceries, later she will tell me another lady took her out.
I gave up my job to be her caregiver. I can’t go to things, like a wedding, or a show, I have to make sure she is asleep to shower. My only relief is vacation we put her in respite for a couple weeks. My 2 daughters do help out but when they do she is like a bad child who won’t listen to them and refuses to cooperate.
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It sounds like your mother is ready for memory care.
if your mother is constantly hallucinating its possible she only has weeks to live . treasure them because everything will be hindsight soon . her brain is a dead short . it will fail her organs next .
I think you're right; values have changed on many levels. Introspection has been substituted for self focus and adulation. Selfies are taken in situations so unstable that some hikers have even died falling off cliffs while preserving their accomplishments (and lack of common sense) through selfies for posterity.
However, Greta Thunberg is a direct opposite of the "me first" phenomenon. I admire her concern, tenacity and dedication. She's a role model for young people.
Polarizaton is also I think a large function of the current political strife and turmoil.
One thing I have noticed while shaking the family tree, all the old photos I have. Yet I have hardly any of the current generation as those photos are stored in their cellphones. Gone are the Kodak moments one use to happily get in the mail.... [sigh].
a kid jetting all over the world screaming about jet pollution . sounds like harry and smeg .
i made 3 small purchases at 3 different stores in town this morning -- declined additional plastic bags for all 3 purchases . i probably accomplished more but i dont expect much recognition for it .
humorously , one purchase was a 16 ounce bag of tobacco . they always want to put it in a carrying bag . i always tell them its already in a bag so strong it requires a box knife to open it .
She's just a kid with her heart in the right place. Her impassioned pleas are great and all that but I think it's a little too soon to be comparing her to Gandhi or Einstein.
Teeavilnor, I'm sorry you are experiencing this with your mom. Trust us, most of us have been there. I think the only way to tolerate this behavior is to remember that it's her brain deteriorating and she can't help it or do anything to stop it. When my mom would start talking about things that I knew not to be true I eventually realized debating it with her was a complete waste of time. Instead I just started to smile and nod and act like I was in agreement. I know it's human nature to want to protect and get your mom to see sense. But unfortunately the human brain isn't a snow globe. You can't just shake it and have everything fall into place again. Oh, that we could.
While I admire Greta's tenacity, she is just one of many.
Hope it’s resolved.
it was totally my fault. I was taking my son to football practice. I have to drive down a road with (2) two-stops. I got to the 2nd intersection with a two way stop, of course I had the stop sign. I was going west and could see that traffic going north to my right was backed up pretty far to the left and that’s unusual. The car in front of me was waved through the intersection by a driver nice enough not to block it. He turned and I moved up & stopped ar the stop sign. I looked down the street to my right thinking there was an accident or somethin but it was all clear, just a lot of people heading north. Southbound traffic was very light, only a few cars coming that way. Then north bound trafffic l, which was already moving slow because they had a stop sign at the best block, stopped moving and a car stopped so as to not block the intersection. I made eye contact with the driver who again was on my left and he waved me through. And for some damn reason I didn’t to look to the right before I accelerated and I collided with a car going south! Didn’t see her until it was too late. Smashed in the front of MILs car. Her car wasn’t too badly damaged, I hit her by the drivers side front tire. But I feel awful!!! I just can’t believe I did that!! AND the woman I hit is my daughters former pediatrician. SMDH. She was very nice about it but damn! I can’t even put in to words how bad I feel! Hubby isn’t even speaking to me which is par for the course. Normally i’d have some unkind things to say about him over that because it’s emotional abuse but I wrecked his late mother’s car which was a gift to us and I know badly I feel so I can only imagine how he feels!!!!
Don’t be too upset with yourself. It was an accident. You aren’t a bad driver.
When I had my car accident (my fault, too) about 4 years ago, the damage to the car was too much, so the insurance took it and paid me the FMV for the car. It was enough for me to buy a used van, and still had some money left over. I was thrilled because we finally had a van for more space for the kids, and put away some money into savings. So, there was some good that came out of the accident. I hope there will be a silver lining for you, too.
1. Nobody hurt! Nothing else really matters.
2. You know what happened and what went wrong, lesson learned, you'll never do that again. Next best thing to its not having happened at all.
What did your MIL ever say when somebody had a bump? Even if she wasn't always totally sympathetic, I doubt if she'd want you to beat yourself up indefinitely. These things happen :)
CM I’m sure MIL is sitting on her cloud giving me THE LOOK. I can totally see her face, she gave that look many times over the years!
Polarbear, yes we have full coverage on the car. It’s a 2017 model so I don’t think the cost of repairing will exceed the value of the car but we will soon find out! For a low impact collision, the front end is really smashed up. I called the insurance last night and filed a claim. Found out our deductible is only $250. It’s always been $500. Hubby must have changed the coverage which explains why the monthly premium is so high! I just noticed it’s $230 a month, I don’t recall it ever exceeding $180. (We have 3 cars on the policy).
That was definitely something good that came out of your accident! I don’t think we will be that lucky, if the car ends up being totaled out, I think it’s worth $17k at most? It was in perfect condition except for the shattered mirror. I wouldn’t mind getting a used SUV, with 2 kids in sports it would be nice to have extra room for all their equipment.
Cwillie, yep it’s a lesson learned for sure. I won’t make this mistake again and I’ll think twice about being the courtesy driver who waves others through. I mean I will still do it but I won’t wave until I can see that traffic is clear and it’s safe for the other car to go. I keep thinking to all the times someone has waved me through or I’ve waved them through, and not given a second thought about whether traffic was clear!