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New Orleans Saints lost the game to Atlanta Falcons today. Grrrrrr
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Another boatload of snow is supposed to be on the way today, tomorrow and maybe even Wednesday. Snow in November isn't unusual but not like this, not so much for such an extended period of time. I can't help but think about my assertion that I would have all this cancer sh*t behind me before the snow flies.... somebody up there is laughing at me.
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the mods are working early, or do they have a bot that patrols off colour language... LOL
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Linda & cwillie: Such a trying time. You are both in my thoughts. Many here on AC Forum are pulling for you. 💗(((biggest hugs)))
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3 years and 2 months since my sons death . in the last few weeks my frustration has settled down dramatically . when arrests are made a 3 yr old boy is going to need a home . i think my home is the primary contender but he will need to be old enough to comprehend several complicated things .
what constitutes a biological child ,
what laws , crime , and prison are ,
why lying and cheating are so destructive ,
educational recreation as opposed to mental masturbation ( hollywood ) ,
respect for laws and law enforcement .

he,s going to have a lot of questions and the answers i give him should reinforce each other to a degree that makes my every future statement believable without much further ponderance .

i trust our judge . while im cleaning shttrs in the forestry hes filing and winning lawsuits against indiana cps and relative legislators .
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cwillie,
its started raining here too , gonna turn to ice and snow .
it reminds me of a former buddy's grandma . she always said that if not for the valleys , ther'd be no peeks .

that was the grandma who was raised ( pretty poor ) in rural kentucky during the great depression . she said their lives werent affected one bit . LOL
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Captain,

Keep the faith! It’s going to happen. Three years old? What a precious age!

Do you mind if I ask you if he looks like your son? Do you see your son in your grandson?

I bet he’s adorable and smart too! Kids are so smart!
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needhelp,
im a little face blind where males are involved but most people claim he looks like jake . the dna has been done so theres no paternity question .
i think the judge knew all along that i wasnt going to push the grandpa issue until the kid was a little older . an old man with a shttn , squawking infant probably isnt the greatest match ever conceived .
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i got a lot done already this am . brought 275 gallons of water from town to top off my rain cistern and bought a cheap tire pump to pressurize the pump tank . then i got all the insulation around the water heater and pump buttoned up .
got plenty of firewood in and some btchn snow tires on the truck . i feel quite justified in cracking this cold beer .
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Happy for you Captain. It’s a big responsibility but he will bring lots of joy in your life as well.

My grandfather was larger than life to me. I can’t imagine not having him in my life as a kid. I lost him when I was a teenager. He was a smoker. Old school smoker for a long time. I remember him buying tobacco and rolling his own. Then later on he switched to buying them. His smoking caught up to him and he had emphysema in the end.

Grandpa was always thin. He worked hard all of his life. He made the best candy! He made pralines and peanut brittle.

His favorite cookies were ginger snaps. Isn’t it funny how we never forget these things. The man had a sweet tooth that went down to his toes but he never gained a pound!
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I went for early voting on Saturday morning to elect our governor. I was chatting with my husband walking up to the building and did not see a pine cone on the sidewalk.

Stepped right on top of it and somehow hit the pavement pretty hard!

Landed on my right knee and right hand. Scraped my hand but did not tear my pants or hurt my knee.

This sweet couple ran over to help me. Hubby was a couple steps ahead of me so he didn’t even see me fall.

I felt like an idiot! But accidents happen, right?

No long line to vote though, since we went early.
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gonna be my warmest winter yet in this house . in tearing off and replacing the roof this summer i saw that my initial insulation had settled down to only a couple inch deep dusting . i added r - 13 ( twice ) in a doubled layer . its snowing out with a ' real feel ' of 19 degrees and ive had to crack the front door open .
nick is going to be here some day and i think he'll like what he sees and feels .
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Update- DH has had complications from hip surgery. Hip is fine/ but he developed aspiration pneumonia, heart attack requiring stent, delirium from anesthetics - daily challenges. New Normal is shower at night, layout clothes, be ready to grab stuff with sudden calls from hospital. SO grateful for help from family, including my sister who flew in right away. And my mom passed away last week. It was quick, calm. Hopefully we were able to help her find peace before. Told all relatives that there won't be a service, with our family situation. Wonderfully all of them, including critics in the past, have all rallied around us and are asking how they can help us. Hope this is encouraging to all of you with difficult relatives - they can and do come around. Baby steps.
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(((hugs))) Linda22
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I've been reasonably zen about the surgery but the likelihood of fffing snow squalls, my generalized anxiety about driving and the need for my BIL to be the one coming to pick me up tomorrow (scary driver) has my anxiety ramping up. I'm running out of coping strategies - I already went for a walk and it's miserable out so I don't want to go out again, I've played 10,000 games of free cell and spider solitaire, I can't drink because I took tylenol for a headache, I can't stuff my face because my stomach is in knots and if I drink any more coffee I'll start bouncing off the walls.
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Call people on the phone, Cwillie.
Keep talking.
and we are still here for you.
That ride tomorrow sounds like an E-ticket ride at an amusement park.

There are choices. With your newest cell phone comes the opportunity to
sign up for UBER, or whatever you have in Canada. You can meet your BIL there. An app for a ride or even a taxi, (also taking your chances), can at least offer you those choices. This can make you feel more independent and in control.

Please check in on the exercise thread, and use your exercise videos-they were an excellent recommendation!

Drink lots of water, even though it is cold. And heating can make your nose dry and uncomfortable.

Time to read a book, unrelated to your treatment.

Tell us, let it all hang out.
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Dance music, now.
Circle the arms, move your feet.
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Hey, hugs CWillie.
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Thanks Send. I had a nap, and now I'm drinking some "feeling soothed" tea. I live about an hour from the hospital in the city and need to be at there at 6 a.m. Thursday, that's why I'll be leaving tomorrow and spending the night at sister's place. No public transit from here. No Uber is going to get me where I need to be.
I just need to distract myself for a little bit longer.
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cwille,

You’re always on our mind, in our hearts and prayers. You and MidKid inspire me so much.

In spite of needing others to lean on, you and MidKid have reached out to others during your own challenges. No one would blame you, if you put all of your energy into yourselves right now.

I have always felt that going through pain ourselves, will either cause enormous compassion because of experiencing and understanding what others are going through. Sometimes it may cause bitterness and resentment or even a combination of compassion and resentment.

There is fear and a horrible feeling of uncertainty. Fear can be crippling. The anxiety of not knowing is the worst.

Talk about testing our faith, huh? Then there is blocking out or even denial. A whole slew of emotions, right?

No matter what you have felt or will feel please know that we care. I would never tell someone that it was wrong to feel a certain way because I think we go through various stages and it’s normal.

There’s no right or wrong reaction. We go through whatever process needed to survive.

We are not carbon copies of each other and experience things individually, as it should be.
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Gee CWillie,
I sure hope you did not read the tea box wrong, it comes in the flavor
"Feeling smoothed"?

Maybe give some to BIL before the drive. The feeling soothed, I mean.
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Hugs to you Willie! You'll get through this.
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Linda,

Many hugs. You’re right. You’ll get there even if all you can take are baby steps right now.
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Hubby comes home so tired from work that he falls asleep in the recliner shortly after eating his dinner.

At times I wish he could retire but I think people overall are happier when they are productive and working.

I sometimes think about getting a part time job since I am no longer caregiving to my mom. It’s been a huge adjustment since mom moved in with my brother and SIL.

I am definitely relieved but also feel like I need something more to fill the hours. Something in addition to volunteer work.
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good thoughts to you, cwillie
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Thinking of you this morning, CWillie!!!!!!
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Traveling mercies!
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Is there an "antidote" for drinking too much coffee?
There has got to be something to undo all that caffeine.
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Sendhelp,

Some say gradually cut back on caffeine consumption. Replace with herbal tea and lots of water.

Exercise is a great energy booster! I ride my exercise bike for thirty minutes a day. Walking is also good. Work in some strength training for toning and maintaining muscle mass. Yoga is wonderful too.

Coffee/caffeine does have some benefits. Like anything else, overuse has it’s drawbacks.
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How did it go? ((((Hugs))))))
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