I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
She retrieved the tax form online yay (and had opted out for paper in 2022 so we will work in going back to paper... I'm all for online stuff mostly but will NEVER have tax forms sent online. Seen too many elderly folks miss them, lock themselves out and adult kids (like me now...) have to find passwords etc in my financial career.
Self care - check! I am going away for two nights for my bday next Thursday and Friday. My brother will be on call.
The hotel we are staying at has a spa with mediation loungers and I cannot wait to sit in a zero gravity chair with a weighted blankie and eye pillow with noise canceling headphones and listen to mediation sounds for a FULL HOUR!!
I've also reserved a "grounded earth" session that includes guided breath work, face and scalp massage topped off with pressure point foot massage.
I'm very blessed to be able to do this, and my parents want me to have fun and my brother is happy to help and he's been a huge help clearing out their storage unit.
He's laid off during winter months. So I'm grateful for good sibling relations.
May I borrow your orange dress? 😹
So we will call or go online together tomorrow. Sigh.
I'm a little concerned as well but trying to keep her calm with the facts i.e. We will get it resolved, there are numerous ways to get it, they are not going to keep her refund etc etc. She worries about money terribly. It's just another hassle/step bc the new login.me etc blah blah and blahhhhh..
Plus my dad running around here like a banshee bc of the snow and his endless chatter about himself and all of his tasks doesn't help her (or me lolll)
Luckily we have nurse psych practitioner at 4 so hopefully that will calm us all down. Mom almost canceled bc she's afraid to walk outside after a storm, I don't blame her but she really needs this appointment today.
Plus we are in the middle of preparing thrm to move..
I knew I shouldn't have brought over the tax form from their mail today.. 🤦🏻♀️
I hope everyone has a calm and peaceful day. 🕊️🙏
Ask AI if an inaccurate lie is the truth lol.
Whatever floats your boat. You're having fun. That's what matters. Free helps too.
You are quite fashionable. Your outfit sounded great! You are living the good retired life now. I like the idea that you can never be too dressed up.
My dH and I are entertaining ourselves by trying to test Ai (AI) with strange questions.
We have found that Ai has a few readily identifiable characteristics.
1. In videos, AI will repeat the story over and over, using slightly different words.
2. There is always an inaccurate lie in there somewhere.
3. It contains material that is often characteristic of how a foreigner would speak.
(foreign to us in the U.S.)
So, people, if you want to find out if the world is ending, google this:
Does Chicken Little have Cassandra Complex?
Scroll on by if you just don't find our silly pursuit funny. At least it's free.
A little humour here. On the weekend, R and I went to a Bluegrass Festival in the city. We enjoyed the performances from the little kids who played, to the award winning band. it's not my favourite type of music but I think that any music played well is worth listening to. And the festival had a good family atmosphere.
Having never been to a bluegrass event, a few days before I asked R what I should wear, and he said what you have on now is fine. There will be people there dressed very casually to others dressed up.
OK!
I was a little mortified once we were settled in our seats to see that people were universally very casually dressed, is mured shades of light grey and beige to dark blues and black. R was the best dressed man is a dress shirt and slacks but at least he followed the general colour scheme - blue and beige. I, on the other hand, stood out like lava flowing from a volcano at night. Yes, I was dressed in orange, not a dark dignified autumnal orange, but an almost fluorescent spring orange reminiscent of the colour of some african daisies I have grown.
R said, "There's nothing wrong with standing out."
I guess there isn't if you plan to, but I hadn't.
Sarcastic then, but now it can be applied literally to many in the medical professions.
The slow decline is so hard for Mom and for you . (((Hugs)))
The waking thing is normal to everyone. Mothers with little babies, people with jobs, teachers, school kids. Once Mom is gone you will worry about what may happen to you. The darkness scares us all.
Divert yourself. Whether white noise, soothing music, of whatever, divert you mind. Hey, I do true crime podcasts when/if I wake up. One therapist's book suggests you change that night monster into a real monster, acknowledge and welcome it with its boring and repetitive nonsense. Let it go on and on and tell it "But you already SAID all this". Decorate it, tell it it looks silly, whatever.
WE ARE ALL AFRAID sometimes. We are ALL WORRIED sometimes. And you have circular thought out this thing about Mom over and over.
As Dr Laura says, not everything can be fixed.
As the Serenity Prayer says "Serenity to accept what you can't change, courage to change what you can, wisdom to know the difference."
Happy dreams.
That truly haunts me.
Logos are hijacked as well making the email or text look legitimate.
Good rule to follow, never open links on text or email, never call back a different number from the paperwork/cards you receive from your providers of any type and NEVER give anyone remote access to a tech device.
I am sure there are lots more "do nots" but, these are the ones we see causing problems repeatedly.
Venting, I hope that you get some satisfaction with your situation.
I just want to warn everyone again, since I knew nothing about such scams before:
It’s possible for criminals/scammers to impersonate another email address, which looks almost identical to the original one. Sometimes there’s only one letter difference. One really must watch out. It’s also possible for hackers to completely take over an email account.
Sometimes the scammers stalk an email account for a long time, reading all the emails, learning all the details. Then they pounce at the right time and try to grab the money, by re-directing you to another bank account. They can even reply to a whole real past email thread (that’s what happened to me), which is why I suspected nothing. It looked very real, because otherwise how would they have access to the past email thread? The answer: because the email account was hacked.
What I learned:
before making any big money transaction, CALL the person you know so you can verify the details.
You wrote: “In my financial job they'd hack a client email and based on prior exchanges mention a detail or two from those etc, mimicking style. Then they'd make a cash request and oh btw they've changed banks and here's the new banking info.”
This is basically identical to what happened to me. But it wasn’t my email that was hacked.
Several employees who are smart smart smart got ensnared. It's easy to let our guard down when all the seeming "boxes" are checked esp when they drop info that only that person would generally know it seems soooo much to be the person who has been hacked.
A good practice for any of us trying to vet any type of request to pay a bill or for funds....
Again I'm sorry this happened. 🥺
Do not trust @dr.com
Thanks so much for this information on the scam.
They will always find a new way and this IS a new way.
Somehow this hacker managed to get into this legitimate plea for help and get funds put into HIS thing.
I am so suspicious anymore I am quite paralyzed with the whole giving thing. It pretty much has to be hand to hand for me now if it isn't some massive organization I trust. And how many of those are there?
Happy New Year to you too!
I also want to warn you about scammers. It never happened to me before. But I’ve been email-scammed.
This is just to warn you, since it happened to me. I got an email-reply that was part of a whole valid email thread between someone (X) and I. X needed money I was willing to give to X. X is innocent in this story.
That email-reply (X@dr.com) had X’s name in it. I totally believed it was X writing to me. I never suspected anything.
Actually that email (X@dr.com) was a scammer and I transferred money to him. I’m a victim of crime. I reported it to the police.
X@dr.com wrote to me in the same style as X. The scammers are very tricky.
Do not trust emails from @dr.com
So, it's very hot Margaret?
Llama, Yes, beware the little blue man.
I could not post on Aging Care for weeks awhile back.