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My dH is saving used paper plates and bowls. Still pondering this.
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Today, we drove up to a housing development to see the many hills covered with Lupines. The flowers were beautiful! It now appears, but is dark on my avatar, needed to be lightened.

Never will I have, or even strive for a large home, content with what I now have.

Human nature has us thinking.....yeah but....It would be nice. How do others afford it? If I did get a huge home, I think that I could share it with others working hard to keep themselves afloat.

There is great gain in being content with what we have.
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cwillie - you give me something to ponder over. One of my best friends is very well off. She and her husband are both doctors. They make good money so they can afford nice things. I, on the other hand, drive a 17 yr old van, live on a budget. I know the feeling you describe. When my friend tells me what nice things she just bought, or nice places they just vacationed at, sometimes I feel a little envious.

I try to count the blessings I have in my life. I take pride in the fact that we have no debt, and we pay off our credit cards every month, and that the house is on track to be paid off. The two vehicles we have are old but paid for. My kids are learning to save up little by little for what they want. We are saving money for our retirement rather than spending it on new cars or iphones.

A few quotes from Dave Ramsey that help keep me grounded.

"We buy things we don't need with money we don't have to impress people we don't like."

"Act your wage."

"Debt is dumb. Cash is king. The paid off mortgage has taken the place of the BMW as the status symbol of choice."

I do feel better. I should as there are many other who are not as fortunate as I am.
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I understand the difference in theory, I'm just having a hard time applying it to my everyday life. Most of the time I am satisfied with very little and don't feel deprived, but when I am out with friends who have the newest phone or car or are discussing their latest cruise vacation I feel .... I don't know, left behind, like maybe I '"should" want those things too?
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CWillie,
Cheap is not buying that meat you enjoy at the butcher shop.
Frugal is buying just enough, wisely considering the cost, and counting your budget worthy of this expense.
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Then I burgered up on the Brat thread~ My Uncle is frugal and my dH is cheap. I shouldv'e said "My cheap dH wouldn't like packages coming to the door from Mexico, of things I purchased and had sent", not frugal.

To be frugal is good. My Uncle wouldn't be where he is now had he not been frugal.
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I always associate the word "cheap" with being stingy or miserly, like always expecting others to foot the bill (yes, I have both relatives and in-laws like that). But being frugal to me is just trying to be prudent and a good steward of your own resources, like looking for a good sale or bargain. I like to think I try to be frugal most of the time without being cheap/miserly.
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cwillie - Frugal is the term you use to describe your limited spending habit. Cheap is the term you use to describe others doing the same thing. Haha. I'm just kidding.

I always think being frugal is for good reasons, not squandering money. Being cheap is like being a tightwad.
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I'm having a hard time differentiating between being frugal and being cheap.
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GrannieAnnie, so very sorry to hear about Aunt Rose. Will keep you and your family in my prayers. So very sorry for your loss.
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GrannieAnnie - so sorry for the loss of Aunt Rose. She sounded like a very caring person and that you loved her a lot, and she loved you, too.
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(((Hugs))) GrannieAnnie, I'm very sorry for your loss.
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DeeAnna, Polarbear and others.  Our Aunt Rose died today.  She was such a lovely lady.  It was a week ago she spoke with me last, before getting so sick with pneumonia.  She was thinking of others.  It was snowing hard and she asked if I had enough food in the house for my husband and to be careful driving! 

In Dec. I was thinking, I can't do this anymore.  God has some reason for this situation, but what? As soon as I accepted it, everything changed.  It did not last. She's been in a caring NH all month, and I got to rest and to enjoy visits.
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Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory." — Dr. Seuss.
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“We begin to remember not just
 that you died, but that you lived.
And that your life gave us
memories too beautiful to forget.
🌷🌼🌹

In memory of our loved ones 💖
{From the website “Grief – How do we go on?”}
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I know what you mean Gershun. People all around you talking and you feel lonely and sad. I say because of what their talking about...
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Thank you Polarbear that was beautiful!

Thank you Gershun and it does make sense to feel lonely when your with people.
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Shell, I feel alone a lot especially when I'm with people if that makes any sense.

I'm sorry you are feeling lonely but God is just a whisper away.

Take care!
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Loneliness is the sadness feeling there is. Shell, I am sorry you're feeling lonely. Many people experience loneliness as we age. I am reminded of the song "Learn to Be Lonely" from the Phantom of the Opera.

Child of the wilderness
Born into emptiness
Learn to be lonely
Learn to find your way in darkness

Who will be there for you?
Comfort and care for you?
Learn to be lonely
Learn to be your one companion

Never dreamed out in the world
There are arms to hold you
You've always known
Your heart was on its own

So laugh in your loneliness
Child of the wilderness
Learn to be lonely
Learn how to love life that is lived alone

Learn to be lonely
Life can be lived, life can be loved alone

This song always brings tears to my eyes.
CM, sorry my post is too long.
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Today was a bad day:( I feel so alone these days, but yet, I can't have time to myself, time to breath, to think, to pray!

Thank God He got me through today.

I know He is trying to teach or tell me something...I'm just not getting it!
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Okay, On my mind. I'm waiting to pick up my daughter from work then going home. Home to my husband I take care of. Not the life I want but I know if I was the one who needed care, he would be there for me.
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I am reminded of the request to keep it short and to what is
ON. MY. MIND.
Countrymouse was kind enough to start this for us, with very few "rules".
So I will focus what is ON MY MIND, not on everybody else's.

Still laughing, "As AC Turns", or "All my caregivers". That is a unique concept, somebody could start a new thread......
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Ali, I missed the edit. But don't feel bad at all, whatever you said.
Pammzi, no one would have ever suspected you were "investigating".
Good on you!
Gershun, Always, looking at the best in other people!
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That comment would have never have fit in the old On My Mind. lol (gallows humor)
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I rather like this Edit feature. Enough AC for tonight. I don't feel very pleased with myself when I turn this site into an episode of "As AC Turns" or "All My Caregivers"... lol
...I hope his son's murder can be solved. Every family deserves some measure of justice and closure.
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Thanks Pamzimmrrt
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He always reminded me of our neighbors in WV.. LOL
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Thx for the info Pam. There is definitely a big heart under that somwhat crusty exterior with the captain.
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About Captain.. I look about sometimes because I actually really liked him, he was authentic if somewhat abrasive.. LOL. Nope they have not solved the murder, but his ex wife has an active FB page about him. (the son) Its so sad. Yes I am a pretty good "stalker"
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I often wonder about the captain. I hope they solved his son's murder.
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