I don't expect her to do much because of the distance. However I do expect more than 1 visit every 6 months that last's 9 hours and she goes home. If I complain she just says..."you don't have to do anything" the nursing home will get him here or there. You don't have to make sure he is happy on holidays, that's your choice. My dad and I were never close. He never acknowledged me unless he was calling me the devils child! My mother (11 years his junior) died of cancer in 2006, dad's health took a fall for the worse. He had a triple bypass, aortic aneurism repair and a new aortic valve replacement. He is also in kidney failure, has COPD, diebeties and glaucoma. To make matter worse, she is the one with the POA for all of his financials. I only have POA for medical. Now im not worried about her stealing the money, she would NEVER do that. She is a good person. But whenever she calls to talk, she always says "thanks for taking one for the team"! I wish I knew who my team consists of because I seem to be the only one I know about. My feeling for my sister have changed so much.... I am so proud of all her achievements in the military, My smile is a mild wide when I talk about her just as if I am talking about my kids. I am in counseling and trying to figure all of this out. Anyone else have something like this or any advice?
"you did get stuck with Mom". I didn't and don't see the humor in it.
I don't really talk to her; just e-mails. She came home last year when my mother was gravely ill with pneumonia and medical staff called in hospice. But my mother pulled through, thankfully. My sister said she won't be coming back for a funeral. I've always been there for my parents as it seems you have too.
I've always honored my parents and helped them. Making sure they are in a quality facility is honoring them as well as you know they are safe and taken care of. You are a wonderfuly daughter and you can feel comfort in knowing that you were there for him. Take care.