Mom won't put dirty clothes in the hamper and tends to wear the same things every day. She does put underwear aside, but then when I wash them, she always says 'I JUST DID THEM YESTERDAY!' which she didn't. She's also taken dirty underwear and put it back into her drawer because she said it was clean (it wasn't), so I had to re-wash it. Then she took that clean underwear off the line, put into a laundry bag, and was going to wash again. All this activity includes agitation and yelling. She wants to do it herself, but she never does. My sister said I should just stop washing mom's clothes but I just can't do that.
I'm going to bring this up in a letter before mom's next neurologist appointment, but I was looking for any helpful hints in the meantime. He prescribed generic Aricept (10 mg) last year. Thanks so much!
I wrote on the calendar the day we did laundry so that I can show her. Even though mom doesn't want me doing her laundry, she has a hard time operating the washer now. One time she poured the detergent in the 'softener' dispenser. I will try your advice of 'getting sneaky,' so thanks again!
I guess I'd try not to argue. If she "JUST DID THEM YESTERDAY" don't say "no, you didn't" but try "Oh, Mom, I'm sorry. The top one didn't look clean so I just assumed they needed washing. My fault. Now I guess they'll be extra clean. Is it time for our ice cream snack?"
Don't argue. Get sneaky. Write to the neurologist before her next appointment.
Good luck!