I arranged for a young lady (a college student ) from her church. I was there when she came, I made a list and told her to be sure to ask Mother what she would like her to do. She called me today, saying she did not stay long because Mother told her to go home. Mother has vision problems and memory problems and obvious behavior problems. I think this was VERY rude. My sister's were trying to help! what do you do when they do not realize they need help. I am not trying to smother them ( my Father is 85) just help them... I can really see them declining. I am the only one close to them my sister live away, God bless them... I am very tempted to just back off completely and do nothing!!! Someone please advise me.... thank you a tired daughter...