My Mother is currently in a nursing facility - she has dementia and can get quite aggresive - I feel that because of this she is really left alone - no one likes to deal with someone who fights them. I am trying to get the best care for my Mother - spoke with the facility director and asked if she could be moved to another unit where some of the patients who where with her in rehab are now - plus I got to know the daughters of these patients and I can relate to them an not feel so alone. The director is constantly telling me no beds available - I am beginning to think that because of her being a challange no one wants her. Should I start looking for another facility - plus my Mother enjoys doing arts and crafts and she is not allowed to get envolved. any advice??
One of the other residents said something to her that she didn't appreciate, and so my MIL reached over and pulled her hair. This isn't the first facility that she has been in, and changing facilities isn't going to change anything for her. Other than her blindness and dementia, she is as healthy as a horse and I suspect that she will live beyond a hundred years.
We live in a rural part of a small state, so there are no doctors who specialize in elder care. Medication makes her into a near zombie, and she falls often. There must be some middle ground somewhere, but we haven't found it yet. Good luck with your mom, but you have to realize that the staff at the NH are between a rock and a hard place, since your mom isn't the only resident.
I dont know anymore maybe the staff prefer they are all drugged up and not a bother to them?
Who told you that your mom isn't allowed to join in an arts and crafts activity? When an elderly parent is in a NH it's wise to pick and choose your battles but your mom being excluded from activities because she's difficult is a battle I'd pick.
I'm a home healthcare nurse and I frequently have patients who are in a NH. One patient in particular who has dementia can be very difficult, very ugly, and very defiant. I've been told by staff members that they don't like to deal with her and stay away from her as much as possible. And while we all know that it isn't personal it is still challenging to care for someone like this. I'd love to say that this woman gets the same treatment as the rest of the residents but I know she doesn't so her family has had to hire private caregivers to make sure she's taken care of and to be advocates for her.
I'm not sure another facility would be any better. The patient I just mentioned, that I see? She's in the nicest NH I've ever been in.
Talk to the activities director. Maybe your mom is disruptive and that's why she's not included. If this is the case, I know the activities department would let you borrow some supplies for you and your mom to do some crafts together during a visit.