I have always been the one to host my parents for holidays. It was great when they were mobile.
Three years ago, I moved them near me. I have had to try to find a balance making sure they have a celebration and figure out how to make sure my husband has Fathers Day or God forbid, I have a Mothers Day.
Do any of you get a break in Holidays? I am so tired after a bout of Covid. I am negative so I will bring brunch to Mom, but I really just want to sleep.
Get my gist? One of the presidents declared it a national holiday and this woman spent the rest of her life trying to get it 'overturned".
BTW, EVERY Sunday is Father's Day. 'Nuff said.
Only after 40+ years of being a mom myself did I begin to lose the absolute hatred I had for Mother's Day. It was always about my MIL, always, and I was the rotten DIL. She never acknowledged me as a mother and made sure I had many hurtful barbs hurled my way.
We 'celebrate' in the most laid back fashion. My kids all are old enough to gift me beautiful gifts, but it's the personal notes and cards that I treasure.
I do not have any relationship with my MIL any more. I see MY mother the day or two before Mother's Day.
So this year I went out of town with the hubs to see our son. We stayed in a nice hotel and had a nice dinner with him. For once it was a Mother's Day all about me.
I did see my grandpa and brought the staff some treats, and wouldn’t you know none of my family hosted anything.
Its hard when everyone depends solely on you especially when you’re a caregiver.
You are entitled to your Mothers Day. Too late now but you could have celebrated Moms yesterday. Telling her your taking Sunday for your Mothers Day. Christmas too. Celebrate theirs at the AL. Easter too. You have a family that is growing you deserve to be them. Tell your parents you are missing your grands best years.
Back to basics: a phone call. Or cake & a card for birthdays. Flowers for other days.
After all, what do people really want? To have special days remembered.
Sometimes the pressure to put on the whole she-bang comes from.. ourselves! 🙃
If the Post-Covid Blues lurking with intent...
Rest up, re-engage with life at the pace you need. This is your defence strategy.
We all make way too big a deal about these Hallmark Holidays anyway, in my opinion. Then our parents turn them into a federal case and force us to show a festive face, etc and it gets to be TOO MUCH after a while. KISS is my motto these days, Keep It Simple Sweetie.
Good luck doing things YOUR way this year and in the future!